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[Thewizardssleeve]

So, at christmas my DP took a photo of me asleep in bed with our DD, so he shows me in the morning - the photo isn't very flattering (mouth wide open etc) so i feel rather violated and asked him to delete it and not to take any photos like this again. So today lo and behold, he shows me a photo he had taken of me asleep in bed again with DD, we were out at lunch at the time. I get annoyed an ask him to delete it, stating that I asked him last time not to take photos of me sleeping. He gets annoyed and storms out saying I have anger issues. AIBU to react this way? i feel like he's breached my trust.

You have the right to your own boundaries.

I'm on the fence. On one side I see why your annoyed but on the other he may thought it was nice seeing you sleeping with your child and wanted to capture the moment.

Someday pictures will be the only memories we have regardless of how you look in them. FWIW I wish my DH would take photos of me and the kids.

If you've said no photos while you sleep he shouldn't be taking photos while you sleep.

@rosegoldivy He might think it's nice but OP has said no.

Was just trying to offer an insight to why he might have done it.

Didnt say it was OK if OP isn't happy about it

Ah right.

Doesn't really matter why he did it though really. It's really not on.

I asked him why he did it, he said it found it funny the way I was sleeping. Thing is, I asked for him not to do it when he did the same over Christmas period. I was asleep with out DD, I had no top on. Same this time but I was sleeping on my front. Just doesn't feel right he's gone and done it again.

I'd be very angry. It's very, very easy for him not to take a pic of you while you're sleeping. He's deliberately doing this to upset you, and now he's gaslighting you, trying make you believe it's your fault he's a fucking prick.

This is actually the kind of thing I wish my DP would do but he doesn't 😅 they will be all but memories one day so it's nice to have and look back on

However, if you have explained your boundaries I do think he should listen. I don't think it's weird he does it though

I think he's wrong because you specifically asked him not to. He could have described it to you if he thought it was funny.

I think using the term "violated" is a bit of an over reaction

It's the perfect term because that's exactly what he's doing to her. He's violating her privacy, dignity and trust.

thanks, i appraise that some might think 'violated' is an overreaction, but i did specifically tell him not to take photos of me sleeping, in addition, i was topless on both occasions albeit sleeping on my front the first time.

correction topless sleeping on my front the second time.

He's 'stormed out' because he knows he's wrong.

@Laiste i agree 😞

Is this the only issue between you? Everything else ok?

I don't mean that to sound patronising. Genuine Q.

That's a bit creepy.

Do you feel safe?

I can't believe you are even asking whether YABU. Of course you aren't.

But why did he say you have' Anger issues'?

Oh ffs a zombie!!!

How does he feel about you posting about him on a public forum? I thought you were going to say he posted it somewhere. You are the one with boundary issues.