To think being young was just amazing

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I’m not old, but I’m 45 and currently watching Totp and thinking about being a kid and a teen, even up to 30’s really, it was so much easier? So much to look forward to and I never really worried/had any worries.
My childhood wasn’t perfect and my Dd has a much more magical one filled with more love…but..I wish youth could last forever 😔

Yeah. Youth is wasted on the young, and all that. Even when I had problems I was convinced that when I was an adult they’d just melt away as I’d be an adult and invincible 🐻

Yeah I miss it. The freedom, no health problems, no anxiety, relationship was in good nick, the ability to be spontaneous etc....

It all changed when I became a parent at 32!

If I knew then what I know now.....

Sigh

YABU. With age comes wisdom and experience. Which should be valued.

I am 43 and I am happy mentally with where I am now but I’d kill to have the energy and body of my 20s. I’d be unstoppable 😆

Youth is definitely wasted on the young!

Gonna go against the grain here, I didn't enjoy being a teen that much. I prefer my 30s to my 20s because:

• I felt far more comfortable in my body and confident in myself
• was a mum at 28 and again at 31 so had my children at the right time for myself
• I don't feel old at 36 pursuing a new career and feel as though my life is way out in front of me.

Hmm I think most of the things I miss about being younger are not really about being younger, they’re about not having children. If I didn’t have kids, I’d have all the wisdom and experience of age but also all the freedom of youth. And I’d have more sleep and more money. But I wouldn’t want to be without my children, not for the world. Catch-22.

I'm 53 and love and miss those days so blast music out on Alexa most nights x

Not really tbh. I mean obviously you are fitter, you have better skin and you have few responsibilities.

But aside from that no. I found that being a young woman was a constant source of paranoia. I never thought I was beautiful enough, clever enough, funny enough. I let fear of other people’s judgement hold me back from so much.

Now I’m 50: objectively I’m probably less attractive but I don’t feel it. I may not be able to run as fast but I am healthy. I am in control of my own financial destiny and have my own money. I don’t have to organise my life around other people. And I care less and less each year what people think.

Theres no way I would trade that for being a timid twenty something.

I miss not having backache. I miss being able to walk and dance without my knees hurting.
I don't miss being more unsure of myself!

I'm on @Xtraincome 's team. Career moving at a pace it never has before, having some proper fun with 3 dc, enough money to start making nice choices, body was never great (always been a bit fat!) but get the most (wanted) attention from men i ever have (only a bit fat at present!). Most importantly I know who i am. And thats far more precious than a flat stomach or a naivety about the world ever was.

I work at Uni. Beautiful young women and some attractive young men all full of fun and vitality with the whole of life ahead of them. I hate them at times. Only because I envy them.

Everything seems so blah now, even though I have a nice life and adore my young Dd. It was so exciting then and felt so safe. I feel anxiety creeping up more as I age..about the big things and then even the crappy little things about my face ageing more now..it’s shit!
What are the positives? Please tell me 🙈😅

@Pedallleur It goes so fast, but didn’t realise it at the time..we were like them but didn’t appreciate it/see it that way

@minipieMaybe that’s it, I had my very much wanted and longed for Dd at 40 after years of infertility, but things definitely changed, I changed a lot. I’d been v carefree my whole life up until that point

Xrays
I am 43 and I am happy mentally with where I am now but I’d kill to have the energy and body of my 20s. I’d be unstoppable 😆
Huge fist bump to that X-rays! Am 42 and the second I turned 38 I got chest issues, rosacea, knees went, back went, got stomach issues … if I could just isolate those 4 years and get back that 37 yo body I wouldn’t give a crap about getting on- I’m definitely more comfortable in my skin, not as nervous etc. the only thing I miss about my youth is the people I’ve lost from it.

YABU.

But I can understand there are, lucky, people who feel that way.

But for me, hell no.
Anxiety and depression, that I didn’t know I had - I thought everyone’s mind was as fucked up as mine, they were just stronger and handled things better, If only I’ve known.
Bullied and lonely.
Selfish parents who were too busy drowning in their own misery to see me or raise me.

Nope, no thank you.
Awful time. Still recovering from it all decades later.

I'm in my 40's. All my children are 21+

Money or time no longer an issue.

Like myself more, wiser and life lessons learnt.

Wouldn't go back.

I'd hate to be a teenager or young adult nowadays, though I'm not sure I'd want to return to my own teen years either really. Too many emotions etc. I do agree it felt safer though. I'm heading towards 40 and have realised that I am totally content with my life, despite it not being what I thought I dreamt of. However, things like the war in Ukraine, Cost of Living, Climate change etc weigh heavily on me nowadays, I think when I was younger I cared but didn't worry. Now I care too much and am seriously worried. I feel today's young are surrounded by the news all the time and probably have these worries (as well as others) from a far younger age.

Nah, my 40s are the best bit so far.

I turned 40 just before the first covid lockdown and honestly feel life just keeps on getting worse. Wish I could relive my 20s and 30s

I wish I could go back in time and tell 18 year old me not to worry so much, to try to let go, take some risks and just enjoy everything more because before you know it 20 years will have passed and it's all World Book Day costumes, soft play, doing the Big Shop and booking the car in for an MOT.

Ha, I’ve just had this conversation with DH whilst watching TOTP 1994. It’s almost like I’m grieving for the 90s.

Up to the age of 13 was mostly amazing for me despite a few horrible situations but if I’m honest everything after that age has just been meh . There was a really nice buzz about in the mid to late 90s I don’t think life will ever be like that again