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AIBU?

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Original poster

to not organise or take part in a 'Coronation' street party?

36 replies

weatherthestorms · 24/02/2023 16:40

We have an annual street party at the end of the summer. Street closed, cars moved, bunting up, a band, neighbours out together, family & friends invited kids playing out - 9am -10pm. I lead the organisation for getting the council permissions, all the signatures needed etc.

This year a couple of neighbours have suggested doing a coronation one too. I'm not a royalist, and I have absolutely no intention of celebrating, or even watching the coronation. So I've said I'll sign to shut the road etc. along with everyone else but i'm not getting involved. I doubt I would even go TBH if it was all union flags and God Save the King bollocks.

The people who want to do it are a bit cat bum face with me over it. So Aibu?
For background I grew up in NI during The Troubles and have had quite enough of flag waving and nationalism of any kind to do me a life time already.

Or should I suck it up and help out for the sake of the community and kiddies etc?

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DistantSkye · 24/02/2023 16:43

No YANBU at all! I think signing to close the road is already enough of a gesture. West coast of Scotland here and also not a royalist, or up for Union Jack flag waving or British nationalism.

Changingnametime · 24/02/2023 16:46

Definitely not being unreasonable. Agreeing to close the road is more than enough.

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weatherthestorms · 24/02/2023 16:46

It's not like it's complicated - there's a form on the council website.

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neverbeenskiing · 24/02/2023 16:47

YANBU. If they want it, they can organise it.

Ilikewinter · 24/02/2023 16:49

YANBU .....however id be willing to bet that on-one else actually puts their hat in the ring to organise it all!.

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weatherthestorms · 24/02/2023 16:51

@Ilikewinter Wouldn't bother me! Actually think a lot of people will take a long weekend and bugger off anyway.

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Luoisa · 24/02/2023 16:53

Maybe they are thinking they always turn up to yours but the one time they ask you've ducked out? I'd personally go even though I'm not interested in anything to do with the royal family.

DorritLittle · 24/02/2023 16:53

You organise one street party. The cat bum people can do it too if they want to!

Longtimeloiterer · 24/02/2023 16:54

If they want a party that much let them organise it. Monarchist or not, you do/have done your fair share. Let someone else step up.

ShanghaiDiva · 24/02/2023 16:55

I think councils are making it quite straightforward for people to apply for road closure so probably no need for you to organise that either.
sounds like you do a lot to organise the summer party so would let the others get on with it

FlameRamm · 24/02/2023 16:57

I can’t imagine anyone caring what you do. I’d be a bit “cats bum” about it too if I were celebrating something and someone else couldn’t just politely decline and kept banging on about no supporting it though.

User15387659 · 24/02/2023 16:58

Blimey, it must be awful living in a street like this, what happens if you want to go out and the roads closed

Kerfuffler · 24/02/2023 17:00

Turn up dressed as Hilda Ogden and claim you misunderstood the invite.

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weatherthestorms · 24/02/2023 17:19

‘Maybe they are thinking they always turn up to yours but the one time they ask you've ducked out?’

its not ‘my’ street party by any stretched of the imagination! I just do the paperwork and sort out the marshal rota… that stuff has a deadline - getting the signatures in ahead of time to get the road closing licence so it’s good to have someone on it.

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weatherthestorms · 24/02/2023 17:21

‘Blimey, it must be awful living in a street like this, what happens if you want to go out and the roads closed’

its a day a year. Usually. You park your car around the corner. It’s not closed to people, just traffic! Everyone’s moves their car, and either is at the party or is away. I don’t think we have anyone inside muttering to themselves about the road being closed.

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bingoitsadingo · 24/02/2023 17:25

YANBU. Even if you were a royalist you wouldn't be unreasonable to not want to organise a second street party

Silvers11 · 24/02/2023 17:35

So they are annoyed you won't do the organisation this time? Were you quite disparaging about Royalty when you told them you didn't want to have to organise it or did you just say that you'd sign, but didn't really have the time or whatever to organise 2 street parties in the same year?

YADNBU to not want to do it, but is it possible they are more miffed because of the way you told them no? I'm just guessing here. You do sound quite fierce in your post and using words like 'Bollocks' - which may have upset them as it's kind of a put-down to them, that Their beliefs are being disrespected? If that is the case, maybe apologise for the way you put it over to them but I completely understand why you would say you didn't want to organise it

SleekMamma · 24/02/2023 17:44

Are the neighbours aware you are from NI?
How dense are they to not realise you may not be a royalist.
Jeez! Ignore them, let them sort it out.

UsingChangeofName · 24/02/2023 18:16

I'm rather hoping someone else in our road organises something for the Coronation.
As a child, I have fond memories of the Silver Jubilee celebration street party and my older dc have fond memories of the Golden Jubilee celebration party, so I'd quite like to think that lots of people get the chance to take part in a Coronation Street Party, and I don't think you have to be a raving royalist for it to appeal.

However I still think YANBU. If people want to do it, then it really is up to them to crack on.
Hopefully not from 9am until 10pm though, that soundls like a nightmare year on year.

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weatherthestorms · 24/02/2023 18:32

‘Were you quite disparaging about Royalty when you told them you didn't want to have to organise it’

Nooe, quite literally said ‘ I’m not that fussed about the coronation, or having a party for it. But ask —-/ she’ll probably do it.’
yes, it is apparent where I’m from - the accent! But I could just as well be a raging Orangeman all for King and country so…

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brrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr · 24/02/2023 18:41

I won’t be doing anything either, and will probably nip abroad for a few days. Can’t bear royalty.

ilovesooty · 24/02/2023 18:44

User15387659 · 24/02/2023 16:58

Blimey, it must be awful living in a street like this, what happens if you want to go out and the roads closed

God knows. Apparently you're miserable and incapable of being kind if you object though. 🙄

LakieLady · 24/02/2023 18:47

I'm a republican and I wouldn't have it anything to do with it, so offering to sort out the road closure is very decent of you imo.

Thankfully, no-one in my street seems to be into street parties of any kind, although we're all civil and friendly and will help each other out when necessary.

KateAusten · 24/02/2023 18:51

I would hate something like this and certainly wouldn't go

I say hello if I see my immediate neighbour's, that's enough for me

Pizzaholic · 24/02/2023 18:54

You are definitely not being unreasonable. You sound like a great pillar of your local community and go above and beyond to organise the annual summer parties. Let someone else sort it out.

I will be as far away from any coronation celebrations as he imo should've abdicated and handed the reign to William. But that's my take on things and understand people do want to celebrate.

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