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To worry about Kate Forbes becoming first minister

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Creatine11 · 24/02/2023 10:01

Abortion and LGBT rights have been something that have largely not been part of political debate for at least the last 10 years. Gay marriage was enacted in 2014 and was broadly supported. The last serious challenge to abortion rights was at the start of the coalition government with Nadine Dorries et all. However, broadly gay rights and abortion rights have been settled issues- it has almost been taboo for politicians to oppose them. Certainly, there hasn’t been any serious possibility over the last decade (at least) of any rowing back on abortion, gay marriage, gay adoption, divorce law etc.

However, it is clear that in the heart of hearts of Forbes she disagrees with all these things due to her beliefs as an evangelical Christian. By all accounts she was very competent as a minister and has been a good MSP. However, as first minister she will be a figurehead for Scotland as well as setting the tone for policy and political discourse. Also, unlike Rees-Mogg and DUP types, Kate Forbes seems like an otherwise sensible, competent, ‘normal’ politician.

My concern is Forbes being the leader of Scotland could normalise her views on these issues. While I don’t believe abortion or gay marriage face immediate threat, if it’s brought into mainstream politics it will become a party political issue and may well shift public opinion, especially given the current culture war. Politicians, journalists, activists and others who have held these views quietly may be emboldened to launch a new campaign against abortion, LGBT rights or some other issue. I don’t know this would necessarily just be limited to Scotland as Nicola Sturgeon and her policies had a very high profile in the rest of the UK and influenced policy.

Aibu to worry about Kate Forbes becoming SNP leader and first minister?

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watmel · 26/02/2023 17:11

HBGKC · 26/02/2023 16:48

For millennia, marriage = man & woman. That is an historical fact. Nothing homophobic about it, just reality.

2004: civil partnerships gave homosexual couples the same legal rights and status as married (i.e. heterosexual) couples.

Not good enough, though. Unless everyone agrees to redefine the concept of MARRIAGE to give it a completely different (almost opposite) meaning to its universally recognised, historically established meaning, everyone is homophobic.

That is illogical. A bit like saying everyone is transphobic unless everyone agrees that woman must now also mean man.

Nonetheless, 2014 sees gay marriage legislation passed into law, thereby changing the meaning of a societally important concept.

You maintain that anyone who objects to this language (and the concepts it represents) being manipulated, distorted and changed beyond recognition, is homophobic. I beg to differ. Never the t'wain shall meet 🤷🏻

Given the link you posted earlier, you can't complain that people call you homophobic.

They way you're talking you'd think same sex marriage was compulsory.

Botw1 · 26/02/2023 17:23

@HBGKC

'For millennia, marriage = man & woman. That is an historical fact. Nothing homophobic about it, just reality.'

Except it is historical fact that gay marriage was banned for millennia because of homophobia

Botw1 · 26/02/2023 17:24

And the only reason you'd care about 'language being distorted' is homophobia

HBGKC · 26/02/2023 17:26

This argument is at cross purposes; some people are approaching it personally, whilst others are approaching it philosophically.

One last try, on why people might object to the concept of "gay marriage":

It's a bit like vegetarians demanding the right to describe themselves as carnivores, even though they won't eat meat. The term isn't relevant or applicable to them, so that demand doesn't make sense - unless and until you change the meaning of the words involved. But why would you?

I still haven't heard a good argument as to why words need to change meaning, particularly when it's only to please a very small minority of people who don't like the fact that a word/concept exists that doesn't include them (despite the fact that that's precisely how language & meaning works - by a process of exclusion. A chair isn't a table; a sofa isn't a sideboard; doesn't mean they're not all equally useful pieces of furniture though).

@watmel you can call me anything you like. I haven't actually stated a personal view on this thread. I copied and pasted Church teaching in the interests of clarity, because it was being mis-represented.

@TeaKlaxon your constant misrepresentation of views with which you disagree is...trying.

Botw1 · 26/02/2023 17:28

In this instance the word didn't change meaning it just expanded because it was homophobic previously

HTH

TeaKlaxon · 26/02/2023 17:32

Eyerollcentral · 26/02/2023 17:04

I do know what a truism is and ‘the fact that someone believes something should continue the way it has always been does not mean they are not prejudiced’, yes and logic dictates that the same is conversely also true, it also does not mean that they are prejudiced.
Mixed race marriage again is not an appropriate comparison. Racist laws were put in place in some places in the world where racists did not want people of different ethnicities marrying. Those laws were imposed unjustly on to the meaning of marriage, they are not a congruent part of the accepted meaning of marriage itself.

If you grew up in Virginia in the first half of the 20th century then anti-miscegenation rules were a core part of the definition of marriage.

But that core was always racist even at a time and in a place where most people considered it fair.

Opposing change was still racist.

In the same way that discrimination against gay couples was always homophobic, even in times and places where it was considered fair.

HBGKC · 26/02/2023 17:32

"You lost me when you claimed that discrimination against gay people across millennia was nothing to do with homophobia."

@TeaKlaxon I claimed nothing of the kind. There may very well have been discrimination against gay people across millennia; some of it might even have been homophobic.

My point is that homophobia has nothing to do with marriage, and vice versa. Unless you want to argue that the very concept of heterosexuality is homophobic..? I believe that is what Queer Theory steers towards, actually.

Eyerollcentral · 26/02/2023 17:35

TeaKlaxon · 26/02/2023 17:32

If you grew up in Virginia in the first half of the 20th century then anti-miscegenation rules were a core part of the definition of marriage.

But that core was always racist even at a time and in a place where most people considered it fair.

Opposing change was still racist.

In the same way that discrimination against gay couples was always homophobic, even in times and places where it was considered fair.

No, the racist laws were grafted on to an existing universal understanding of what marriage is. The content of those racist laws was never understood as a component of what marriage was anywhere else and many people did of course object to the imposition of those laws at that time in those places, leading eventually to their repeal. It is not an apt comparison at all to the issue of gay marriage.

HBGKC · 26/02/2023 17:40

Botw1 · 26/02/2023 17:28

In this instance the word didn't change meaning it just expanded because it was homophobic previously

HTH

So you're saying that the actual concept of marriage (ie heterosexual marriage) has always been homophobic?

Um, ok.

Eyerollcentral · 26/02/2023 17:42

Botw1 · 26/02/2023 17:28

In this instance the word didn't change meaning it just expanded because it was homophobic previously

HTH

The original meaning of the word was of course not homophobic. Do you think that societies all over the globe following different belief systems all just simultaneously came up with the idea of marriage to exclude gay people? The reality is that marriage developed in societies as yes a means of recognising relationships but also as a means of attempting to clarify paternity, sealing alliances, combining assets. Gay people were simply not a consideration in that development, not least of all as gay couples could not produce children. That is not homophobic. The entirety of the definition of the word marriage was altered to include same sex unions, not simply expanded. And even if your reading was true that the meaning was simply expanded, the original meaning would still have been changed by so doing.

TeaKlaxon · 26/02/2023 17:43

Eyerollcentral · 26/02/2023 17:05

Where is the discrimination if there is an equal facility whereby same sex couples can have their relationship legally recognised?

Separate but equal has never been acceptable.

When you deny access to a particular state institution for no good reason to gay couples but not straight couples - that is discriminatory pure and simple.

TeaKlaxon · 26/02/2023 17:45

HBGKC · 26/02/2023 17:40

So you're saying that the actual concept of marriage (ie heterosexual marriage) has always been homophobic?

Um, ok.

Not the concept. The implementation, though, absolutely was homophobic.

maddening · 26/02/2023 17:45

Moonicorn · 24/02/2023 10:08

Well if we are only ‘allowed’ to vote in people with certain views, why bother having elections? I disagree with Kate on these but I’m tired of the left thinking they have an inherent right to shut down anything they find ‘offensive’ and that we should just be able to choose from a selection of candidates they personally find acceptable. It’s beyond arrogant and why people are getting tired of them.

Totally agree with this.

Botw1 · 26/02/2023 17:46

@HBGKC

Essentially, yes.

Gay people have always existed.

The fact that up until this century they couldn't legally get married is clearly exclusionary

Why else would they be excluded from the same rights as heterosexual people 'for millennia' other than homophobia?

It was illegal to be gay up until last century

Come on.

Let's not pretend that homophobia isn't woven through our whole society mostly based on religious doctrine

Eyerollcentral · 26/02/2023 17:47

TeaKlaxon · 26/02/2023 17:43

Separate but equal has never been acceptable.

When you deny access to a particular state institution for no good reason to gay couples but not straight couples - that is discriminatory pure and simple.

So there is no discrimination then, you just don’t like that marriage was not believed to include gay couples. It’s fine to think that but one minute you say it’s discriminatory and then the next you say separate but equal isn’t acceptable. A man can be denied access to a smear test provided by a state institution because it doesn’t apply to him, he can of course have access to prostate examinations. What’s the difference?

Botw1 · 26/02/2023 17:47

The history of marriage is also completely mysoginist

I wouldn't be defending it

Eyerollcentral · 26/02/2023 17:49

TeaKlaxon · 26/02/2023 17:45

Not the concept. The implementation, though, absolutely was homophobic.

How is the concept of marriage (union of a man and woman) not homophobic but the implementation (getting married) is? Makes no sense.

Eyerollcentral · 26/02/2023 17:50

Botw1 · 26/02/2023 17:47

The history of marriage is also completely mysoginist

I wouldn't be defending it

In that case why do you think that gay couples must be included in a misogynistic endeavour? Particularly when civil partnerships are available?

Botw1 · 26/02/2023 18:11

Because as long as its available for straight couples it should also be available for gay couples

twelly · 26/02/2023 18:11

TeaKlaxon · 26/02/2023 13:33

Do you think everyone should respect the opinion of people who want to deprive them of rights?

Would you respect the opinion of someone who believes women shouldn’t be allowed to vote?

Disagreeing with someone still allows people to have that view - it also depend what you believe is a right. The same is true of both gay marriage and abortion - do you call both a right?

Eyerollcentral · 26/02/2023 18:12

Botw1 · 26/02/2023 18:11

Because as long as its available for straight couples it should also be available for gay couples

Why do civil partnerships not meet that need, with the added bonus of not representing a misogynistic institution? Civil partnerships are equal to marriage.

Botw1 · 26/02/2023 18:17

I didn't say they didn't

Id totally be in favour of scrapping/ banning marriage in favour of civil partnerships

But until that happens it should be available to all

PearsOfWisdom · 26/02/2023 18:24

GrumpyPanda · 24/02/2023 10:19

FWIW - Angela Merkel voted against marriage equality when chancellor. While making it very clear this was her own personal opinion and vote not along party lines. There are ways, even in top politics, to handle differences of belief in a civilized fashion.

This.

People of faith should be welcome in Politics, same as atheists , humanists, agnostics etc

watmel · 26/02/2023 18:36

HBGKC · 26/02/2023 17:26

This argument is at cross purposes; some people are approaching it personally, whilst others are approaching it philosophically.

One last try, on why people might object to the concept of "gay marriage":

It's a bit like vegetarians demanding the right to describe themselves as carnivores, even though they won't eat meat. The term isn't relevant or applicable to them, so that demand doesn't make sense - unless and until you change the meaning of the words involved. But why would you?

I still haven't heard a good argument as to why words need to change meaning, particularly when it's only to please a very small minority of people who don't like the fact that a word/concept exists that doesn't include them (despite the fact that that's precisely how language & meaning works - by a process of exclusion. A chair isn't a table; a sofa isn't a sideboard; doesn't mean they're not all equally useful pieces of furniture though).

@watmel you can call me anything you like. I haven't actually stated a personal view on this thread. I copied and pasted Church teaching in the interests of clarity, because it was being mis-represented.

@TeaKlaxon your constant misrepresentation of views with which you disagree is...trying.

Your views are perfectly clear. You think gay people have "inclinations" and "tendencies" and should not have the legal right to get married.

TeaKlaxon · 26/02/2023 19:23

twelly · 26/02/2023 18:11

Disagreeing with someone still allows people to have that view - it also depend what you believe is a right. The same is true of both gay marriage and abortion - do you call both a right?

Why do you keep throwing this red herring in that people are ‘allowed’ to hold their views.

No one has claimed otherwise. Not a single person says she shouldn’t be allowed her views or that she shouldn’t be allowed to be in politics.

Kate Forbes or anyone else can be as homophobic as she likes. But free speech and freedom of belief cuts both ways and your efforts to silence those who think her views are homophobic or who wouldn’t welcome someone with her values as First Minister show that you’re the one who seems to think certain views shouldn’t be allowed.