Feeling a bit shit after comment, do I need to get a grip?

[AzzaazzA]

Friend asked me to go for dinner and when I met her she said she wanted to go for dinner and thought who would be free and so asked me.

Just been feeling a bit low after that. I met up with a different friend this week and also I’m visiting a friend this weekend and was asked to go out for a different friends birthday on Friday so I do go out. It just hurt this assumption of me.

I know I need to do this. But it’s like each night I can just feel my chest tighten and I just cry. Pathetic but it’s just an overwhelming feeling.

if I could be positive I would be.

Next time she asks, say you’re busy 😎

I know why you’re feeling bad over this. It’s like when a boyfriend who makes little effort with you and compliments you by saying you don’t cause them any problems. Not a horrible thing to say but it implies something.
She probably knows you are free on certain evenings, you obviously have a active social life but it sounds like you are having a rough time and it’s hit a nerve.

I’m sorry you’re feeling crappy OP.

it’s really hard when people make judgmental comments like that. I remember I was talking about my weekend (having fun here there and everywhere, a bit like you!) and someone said I lived life like a teenager.

At the time I was offended because I felt judged for not being weighed down by husband and kids. In hindsight the cow was probs jealous she was knackered with kids and stuck in!

It’s a hard dynamic. Sounds like you have some self esteem issues. Have you got any counselling. I’m sure you aren’t a troll ❤️

@AzzaazzA ((hugs)) you're suffering from anxiety, that's why you're crying and feeling your chest tighten... look at the positives in your life such as you obviously have an active social life which is great! A lot of people of all ages don't have that... you sound like you worry too much about what other people think... you really need to stop this as it can spiral into a rabbit hole which is where you don't want to be... basically you don't need to prove yourself to anyone... just be you

Try not to take it to heart, I'm always busy in the day and weekend but usually stay in week day evenings. My friends would know I'm always free on these evening and up for a meal out if asked. It sounds like you're having a hard time so perhaps a little sensitive to what she said, hope you enjoyed the meal tho 😊

Aww that is shit, was she trying to be funny? Sorry, haven't RTFT.
Id probably say, "sorry I'll be in my pyjamas by that time,but I'm sure you'll find SOMEONE to go out with you 😂" then if she's a good mate, move past 😊