Not really an AIBU one but more looking for a hand hold and a bit of advice. I was a bit of a late bloomer and didn't get into my first proper relationship until I was 30.
It is now 6 years later and I know that I need to break up with my partner (both male). I am still very much in love with him but I have realised over time that there are just some fundamental incompatibiliity issues and I know that this is not a recipe for a happy life (for me). I really really want to do things in the nicest way as possible and to end things on good terms (there has been no real nastiness - cheating, physical/emotional/substance abuse). He knows we have been having challenges but I don't think he realises I am at this point. I think I have a fairly naive outlook on these thing and thought you broke up with someone who had really wronged you/ when you fell out of love and already feel sick at the thought of not having him there on a day to day basis.
So I guess the asks are do you have any advice on how I should handle this? How much honesty is best? Do I say I'm still in love?