How can i be more productive

[Mayonaiseislife]

Husband is a little ocd and works from home, i work in office full time.

DH picks kids up from school, does the dinner for them and most of the household chores so by the time i get home nothing much needs done, but i feel like he resents me because of this and throws it in my face that i dont do much.

He will make backhanded comments or little digs, I dont require him to do any of that stuff and dont expect it to be done while im at work.

He does things there and then whereas i can leave the house messy and will clean and tidy up after dinner he has to do it straight away.

Sometimes ill be sitting on the couch and he will be walking about the place doing things that ive told him ill happily do after dinner.

Should i change the way i work to suit him when i ask nothing of him.

You've got two different sets of priorities. He wants things straightened up as you go, you're happy to wait. Personally I'd ask myself whether doing things the way he prefers them is less hassle than it creating bad feeling between us. And ask him. What do you want me to get done? Explain how your system works and that if he's going to do it all to his timetable then he's got to happy about doing it unless he's willing to compromise with some of the things