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AIBU to think it could simply be the mattress?

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Feeling100 · 22/02/2023 09:09

I am 44 and my body aches all over whenever I move, all day long. I feel 100 years old.

Not been to the GP as I’m currently trying to sort my psoriasis and they only deal with 1 thing at a time.

I thought maybe psoriatic arthritis but symptoms say it’s more the joints. Mine def feels muscular.

So could it be as simple as my really old mattress? I share a double with husband and on most nights a starfishing 3 year old. Anyone felt more sprightly after a new mattress?

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HyggeTygge · 22/02/2023 09:11

Quite possibly. Can you swap out your bed for a king size and a lovely new mattress? For me it was hips and joints that got better with a new mattress.

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Feeling100 · 22/02/2023 09:26

@HyggeTygge that’s good to hear it’s a possibility. We’re trying to move house this year so I think for now we’ll have to stick to the double, I’d want the biggest bed possible when we move. Then the double can go to my 7 year old.

Might take the family to try them out this weekend. £500 on a new mattress think might be worth a try.

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IfIGoThereWillBeTrouble · 22/02/2023 09:30

Some brands of mattress offer free trials, eg 100 nights. You could try a new mattress and if you didn’t notice a difference in how you feel, that would save you from buying a mattress you didn’t need.

rbe78 · 22/02/2023 10:47

Sounds funny, but try sleeping on the floor (put a cosy duvet underneath you) for a few days and see if that has any effect. If it does, I would go for a new, much firmer mattress.

HyggeTygge · 22/02/2023 11:00

"Firm = better for your back" is a bit of an old wives' tale I think (unless you are talking from experience!) - when I've looked into it, unless you are very overweight, softer is better for supporting joints. My old one was firm, new one was medium/soft - soft but supportive, not saggy - and it was miles better.

That was about 8 years ago and I'm beginning to wonder if it's time for a new one :(

Ridiculousradish · 22/02/2023 11:02

Possibly! I've just returned an Emma because it made my hips and legs ache as way too soft. Now got a very firm orthopaedic mattress with a topper and zero hip pain since.

HyggeTygge · 22/02/2023 11:11

I stand corrected then! Horses for courses... I quite like memory foam ones except they are far too hot and sweaty. I got Ikea Hovags for my kids and they seem really nice for the price, but I think Ikea have replaced them now.

CatMattress · 22/02/2023 11:12

Can also suggest Vitamin D as an easy potential fix. I get the one you sprat under your tongue and its the only supplement I remember on a regular basis!

CatMattress · 22/02/2023 11:12

Or spray, even....

endofthelinefinally · 22/02/2023 11:15

Get a deep sprung mattress with an integral memory foam top layer. I have arthritis and a hard mattress is agonising for me.

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Feeling100 · 22/02/2023 11:18

All great ideas thanks. Will try vit D, night on the floor, followed by mattress shopping!

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CrystalMaisie · 22/02/2023 11:21

Could also be peri menopause. I was similar in my 40’s. I bought a new bed, took vitamin d, turmeric, did yoga and nothing helped. Had two frozen shoulders . Even had an mri on my hips.

now in my 50’s and on hrt, things have improved a lot.

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Feeling100 · 22/02/2023 11:36

@CrystalMaisie peri menopause did cross my mind too.

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seratoninmoonbeams · 22/02/2023 12:09

@HyggeTygge I completely agree about firm being better for you back. I once bought a new mattress on that basis and it was awful. Soft with support is best. Mine was very expensive but with a 25 year guarantee Blush and has millions of pocket springs and then a three inch memory foam layer. It's been amazing.

WorkingFromHomeRocks · 22/02/2023 12:24

Definitely. I ached all over until we upgraded to a 2200 spring mattress with a gel (I think) topper. It’s just perfect. It was about £1800 but we love it so much. Now, whenever we go away, no bed compares and we are both usually in pain the next day.

AnOldCynic · 22/02/2023 12:37

Can't believe no one has mentioned the doctors only treating one thing at a time! That's ridiculous. What if things are related?

Definitely try what people are suggesting on here. Also Magnesium supplements? But then I'd go back to the doctors.

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Feeling100 · 22/02/2023 12:56

@AnOldCynic I know considering the pain could quite easily be related to the psoriasis as it’s inflammation based. To be fair they’ve always been really dismissive of psoriasis.

Once I was desperate for help as it was out of control and the GP said well it’s chronic and you’ll always have it, so that was helpful.

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Feeling100 · 22/02/2023 12:58

@WorkingFromHomeRocks I’m happy to splash some cash if it’ll make me feel more my age. I believe we spend a third of our lives in bed so cost per use must be very high.

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BelindaBears · 22/02/2023 13:02

Could be! I’ve had terrible back pain after sleeping on soft mattresses on holiday before. Definitely worth a try.

NoProbLlamaa · 22/02/2023 13:50

Absolutely could be! I would say it could be the bed too.

We bought a great mattress but when we later upgraded our tatty cheap bed to something solid, we noticed a massive difference.

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