Brother living with us for free

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Hi I'm not sure if this site is just for mums but I thought I'd join to ask advice I live with my wife and 2 kids I work nights and my wife works days has it's easier on childcare.... recently my wife's brother has moved in due to a really bad relationship breakup he's 37 works part time iv told my wife we should charge him board and iv kept it minimum to £20 a week or £80 a month for use of water gas etc my wife says I'm being unreasonable due to what he's going through I know alot of us are in the same boat due to the c.o.l but she's washing his clothes cooking and cleaning up after him when she's also got 2 young kids to sort....I tidy round put washing on etc to wind down before going to bed for 4 hours so I can do the afternoon reception pick up kids are 4 and 5 any advice would be great

He is going no where while he gets mothered and has no rent. You’ll have him there in 5 years if you don’t step up now!

Nah, he needs to go rather than pay board at this point. Surely he has a job and can get his own place?

I would discuss a reasonable move out deadline with your DW and then let him know.

Lol - I did wonder if I’d missed some crucial information here … 🤣🤣

I'd be asking myself if the BIL split up with his ex because he was a cocklodger, because he sure seems to think £80 PER MONTH AND NO CHORES is sufficient for room and board whilst he's cocklodging with you 😉
You need to sit down and have a frank chat about how long he's staying, what chores he does and how much he pays you guys.

He’s clearly used to being looked after and can’t see the problem.
YANBU.

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The OP last posted 8 months ago. Would be nice if he came back and updated us.
@Aredadsallowed2 We would all dearly love to know the outcome, especially if it's positive.

It doesn't matter what he's going through, he'd have bills to pay literally anywhere else he was living.

Why should he land on you and expect it not to cost him a penny?

Sorry iv not been on for a while to give u all
An update had a job change moved to a new area etc sorting new house new school for kids etc been pretty full on.....I sat my wife down and told her to give her brother a tome frame to pay uo or pack up n she did just that....I'm happy to say he's now living on his own in a little bedsit ( we put up first months rent and deposit by the way) but our house is now back to being our home just in a new location and no longer working nights so I gey more family time....thankyou all for the advice

Sorry for spelling mistakes....

Good update.

Getting back on his feet? You mean lifting his lazy arse off the sofa you paid for?

Gosh, that took a while.
Congratulations on many fronts, not least getting your home back and on the job front too.

It's a classic!!