Cold feet

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Been through 2 rounds of IVF after TTC for a number of years - finally pregnant.

Suddenly, 12 weeks in, I'm absolutely terrified. I feel like there's no way I could possibly be a decent mother, the world is going to hell, and I'm not as financially stable as I would have liked to be and I'm not in the living situation I'd have liked to have been in to give this child the best possible life.

Is this normal? I felt for years like I was ready but now I'm suddenly gripped by anxiety all day and night. I only want one child and I want to do everything I can for them, but I just find myself and my life woefully lacking.

I think this is pretty normal pregnancy anxiety tbh, I felt it with my first and around the same time. Do you have anyone you can talk to in real life about it? You might be surprised by how many other people have felt the same way too.

It's pretty normal.

I had three children, all planned, and felt like this at the start of each pregnancy. It was the "OMG, what have I done?" feeling.

It did subside eventually.

Totally normal.

Congratulations on your pregnancy

So normal.

Trust me OP, you're going to be an amazing mother, I can already tell you'll love them so much. Congrats on your baby. X

I was the same, it calms down although i remember looking at dc1 in cot in hospital post birth thinking wtf have I done 😂 it’s fine, they’re teenagers now and are quite lovely. so even though I thought I might break an arm putting a baby grow on I didn’t and they speak to me so I can’t have be too bad a mum.

I didn't have ivf and I was terrified.

From friends and my sister and law who have had ivf I think the pressure / anxiety is even worse. Give yourself a break and congratulations!

I felt gripped by terrible panic in the early stages of my pregnancy too, for my very much wanted baby. I wonder if it was related to hormonal changes as it felt so intense and in such contrast to how excited I thought I'd be when I got pregnant. I hope it gets better for you soon OP.