To say it's the calendar date that matters, not the day?

[IconicKitty]

Help me settle a debate.

A friend of mine counts a year as the same day of the week an event occurred. So for example, if something happened on Saturday 19th February 2022, they will say it's a year on Saturday 18th February 2023 'because it happened on a Saturday'.

They do the same things with months too - they will say 'x is a month today' when they mean four weeks today, not a calendar month.

I said by this logic, birthdays would be a different date every year if we stuck to the day of the week, not the actual date

I know I'm being petty but it annoys me. AIBU?

They're wrong.

Very odd!

Of course you're not being unreasonable, she's being nutty!!

YANBU, bizarre 😄

They're so wrong.

They are clearly wrong.

This is one of my bug bears too!

If your child was an extra month old every 4 weeks they would be 13 months on their first birthday.

Your friend, along with everyone else who thinks a months is 4 weeks, is a bit thick!

YANBU. A friend of mine would mark each of her baby’s one month “birthdays” with one of those milestone cards and a photo on social media. Except she would do it every four weeks. She kept going until the first birthday was coming up and she realised how wrong she was.

Does she move her birthday each year then so she always celebrates on the same day of the week?

This is bonkers! What does your friend day about why they do this?

They're wrong but I'd just put it in the 'harmless foible' box.

I can see why your friend feels like the day of the week matters, it 'feels' more similar.

So does Christmas 🎄 fall on different dates 🤔??

What date did she celebrate Valentines day this year? Or Christmas, or New Yars Eve? Or don't common inter/national celebrations count?

I would normally say its the calendar date but DH died on Sunday 27th Feb 22 and it is next Sunday I am dreading rather than the actual 27th Feb. Next Sunday feels like it marks his anniversary better and I have absolutely no idea why.

THis drives me mad. Had it with family. Baby born and week 4 came out the 'I am a month today' etc. I worked it out at the time that the childs 1st bday was to be when they were 11 months old by their calculations. They stopped doing it. It may be minor to some but to some of us it is huge!

This winds me up too.
I know somebody who's baby was born on Good Friday, 3 or 4 years ago. If you ask when baby was born, she says Good Friday. She actually celebrated the birthday on Good Friday...

No cos it would be silly to say jesus was born on a different day each year.

Totally sane to say his death each year can change though....

Your friend doesn’t understand how the calendar works.

I know someone who did this too! With exactly the same outcome 😂

I’m so sorry for your loss. The first year is so hard 😔

@bloodywhitecat 💐

I actually have this ongoing issue with a colleague - for example legal documents which have to be served with 2 months notice, she will serve them after 8 weeks. Not the same thing and then when we come to prepare court paperwork, they are wrong. I have tried to explain the difference multiple times. I wonder if it's the same person 😂

My DH does this. It is wrong and annoying!

😂

Yes, this I can understand.
My mother died at Easter but Easter falls on different dates each year and I still consider Easter to be her anniversary.