AIBU to say something or is this a non-issue.

[Phlewf]

This is probably a non-issue, and is definitely a first world problem. I’ve boiled it down as much as I can.

three times this week I’ve spent the evening with someone (a friend, my mum and my husband) and they have nodded off after 2+ glasses of wine. We all have busy lives and are definitely at the stage where any alcohol makes us sleep. My friend and my mum I made my excuses and left, despite their protests because I’m not going to sit there watching them sleep. Dh had a glass of wine with tea and then brought the bottle to the couch and as expected while I’m chatting about plans he’s beginning to nod off.

I’m sick of sitting in silence because people need a glass of wine! I’m not tea total at all and none of these people are problem drinkers. But and I think what’s pissed me off is all 3 have said I haven’t told them something recently and I realised it’s because I can’t be arsed starting a conversation that’s going no where. Obvs me and dh chat during the week but there’s various children and other commitments that don’t lend to a heart to heart.

ugh I think I am being unreasonable but I feel like saying something the next time I see them reach for a wine bottle. Along the lines of “well I’m flouncing off cause I’m petty”. Probably I need more people to talk too as well. But making friends is hard.

alternatively how can I check I’m not just that boring?

Sorry what I nodded off .)

Funny!

I can see why you are annoyed but where YABU is that it was 3 different people, presumably a one off from each of them. It's just bad luck that it happened in the same week. Also I think DH doing it doesn't really count. Its a bit different, he is in his own house and you weren't really doing anything, just having a normal evening at home. It's not like he nodded off during a long waited romantic date or anything.

Ok fair 😂. I’m google how to be interesting enough to sustain polite after dinner chat.

I don’t think it’s you! They were tired and the booze sent them to sleep. Plus we’ve had enough of winter, most of us are tired etc. Just out of interest, what kind of age are they and what time are they nodding off?

Think of it as you being very comforting and relaxing to be around!

I agree, perhaps you feel very soothing to them and have dulcet tones to your voice. I'd start worrying if it all happened again next week.

Why are they all sleeping? I’ve had 2 glasses of wine tonight, a very busy week working six days, it’s 2am and I’m still awake and posting on MN. It can’t be old age if you’ve still parents alive! Do you fall asleep after wine OP? Where do these people fall asleep, in direct face to face conversation with you? I can understand feeling frustrated at the DH on the sofa, but think you’ve just been unlucky really this week?

So you keep driving people to drink / putting people to sleep with your chat.

I thought you were all together and they all fell asleep. That would be irksome if you were the lone conscious one at a dinner party. I think it's pretty rude to fall asleep when hosting a guest but maybe try earlier meet ups if possible?

I don’t drink but have been nodding off all winter! Got up a couple of days ago having had a horrendous cold/flu and I feel back to normal…Perhaps they just ARE tired.

It's a bit odd to immediately fall asleep while having a wine. I don't fall asleep in restaurants after a glass or two or at home over dinner. Surely this isn't regular?

I know you’re all right. It’s not immediate,
it’s sitting on a couch in a warm living room totally relaxed. And maybe I do have a calming presence. I was perhaps feeling a little sorry for myself. I could start spending time with the teenagers of an evening, they never seem to sleep.

@Phlewf

can I book you for tonight?

I'm fairly regularly dozing off for 45 mins after an early dinner. I'm not drinking but after a non-stop busy day it just comes over me. I mean, I'd try not if I had a guest over though!