Noisey neighbour

[Yoyo2021]

Hi,

My neighbour at the weekends ….just like now… has a lady friend round and they are so loud… over the top loud whilst they are having sex and the noises screams etc go on for ages…. In the past it’s been in the middle of the night so only waking me up ( just got to get on with it as paper thin walls here) so whatever but tonight my child for a second time has come downstairs complaining again because of the noises so I’ve had to take my child downstairs again and we are now watching a movie.

My child’s room isn’t even near the wall they are behind if that makes sense and it’s still so loud.

I really don’t know what to do! Not really an option to move as bought this property over half a year ago.

Report it to environmental health on Monday, they have processes they can follow to warn the neighbour and then take action if needed.

Do not follow the ridiculous suggestions you're going to get here about applauding, giving scores, making your own noises, etc. It'll just make you look foolish and will damage the legitimacy of a complaint to the noise abatement team.

Did not realise I could do that. Thank you that sounds great advice.

I can deal put up with it when it’s just me but when it’s affecting my child it’s really made me feel quite angry! I did think about shouting something but just went downstairs and put a movie on.

I’m so tired !

As pp said don't shout /bang on wall etc. Maintain the moral high ground and hopefully council can get it sorted. We had this scenario I kept my cool emailed the council and they spoke to the guy a few times n touch wood we've had peace. Good luck op.

What's the neighbour like otherwise? Are they approachable? If they are I'd be inclined to go round and just be polite but straight that you've had to bring your kid downstairs to watch a movie because the noise woke them and you'd really appreciate it if they could be a bit quieter in future and blame the paper thin walls. If they don't make any effort then I'd ring environmental health and make a complaint. Where i am the police also deal with noise complaints between certain antisocial hours. If you think he'd react badly to you going round or be aggressive in any way then I'd go straight to the complaint. They'll likely give you a diary to record incidents in and then might install sound level equipment to monitor the volume of sound on the adjoining wall. It's tedious but it serves as evidence that what you say is happening then they'll be able to take it forward using that evidence. It can take time which is why if you could bring it up in a friendly way then it might be a faster solution.

Have you dropped them a friendly note asking them to keep it down a bit, and explaining about your DC being kept awake by them, if not I would try that first.
Good luck @Yoyo2021

Thank you for the fab advice! Okay, so in regards to the neighbour a single dad, has his children one weekend then the other weekend off. He is out of the house for long hours just like me as his job also involves lots of travel.

Always have been quite chatty over the first few months I moved in but haven’t spoken much at all for last few months as his mother of his kids has had a few occasions turning up at his address, shouting etc ( I think perhaps he is embarrassed! ) also one night the police were called by a neighbour because she and him having a domestic.

He’s clearly enjoying his new freedom and to right he can. Just not when my child’s asking questions and we can’t sleep!

So, I will see if it happens again. If it does I will go in with a light note. If nothing changes I will go to environmental health.

Excellent advice thank you!

To let you know I received a card apologising, flowers and haribo.

Aww that's really nice of him! Hope you have a quiet and peaceful weekend

Oh that is good news @Yoyo2021, thank you for letting us know 💐

Before you take the bad advice on here to go down the council route, remember that if you do go to environmental health it can cause problems in future when you try to sell the house because you will have to declare any disputes with neighbours. People are reluctant to buy properties where there have been problems with the neighbours. Avoid making formal complaints if you are going to want to sell up in future.