Husband snoring

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It started about 5 years ago and has gotten progressively worse.
It’s now so loud I can hear it from other rooms in the house. I wish I could share a recording 😂
I’m finding it hard to sleep - on top of having two young children, a full time job with regular travel, this is the cherry on the cake.
We have no spare room in the house, moving is not an option right now. I sometimes go sleep on the sofa which is cold and uncomfortable. I have tried waking him now and then to ask him to change positions but he can literally fall asleep in 15 seconds and then it starts over again.
I suspect the snoring is at least partly driven by lifestyle (gaining weight and eating poorly).
Would I be unreasonable to give him an ultimatum to lose weight and get back in shape? Any tips from others who’ve been through similar?
I feel like this is ruining my life. I’m typing this as he happily snores away next to me. It’s so loud it’s making me jumpy!

Wow. I might have to try this if DH opts to do nothing. I will report back if it gets to this.

For all of you suggesting earplugs: I have tried them in the past but find them uncomfortable to sleep with. I’ve always struggled a bit to fall asleep which makes the snoring even worse!
For this reason, I feel it would be too much to ask him to wear a mouthguard. I have sent him a link to one just now and will see how he takes it - but I don’t think it would be fair to expect him to sleep with one.
On the other hand, to expect him to clean up his eating habits and be a bit healthier… I am actually surprised at how many of those who voted seem to think that’s unreasonable!
To be clear: the ultimatum would not be about ceasing to snore (which I know may not be possible) but about doing something to improve his eating habits / fitness, which I hope could also improve the snoring.

Sleep apnoea can kill you. As well as it being selfish, not going to a sleep clinic and getting it treated is idiotic. You don't ignore chronic snoring.

@xsamix86 ordering this now 😊

Orange foam earplugs. Ebay and cheap

Comfortable sofa bed in your living room and a mouth guard (but from the dentist, not Amazon). You have my sympathies!

I've bought the Bose Sleepbuds and they've absolutely changed my life. After 2 years of not being able to sleep in the same bed as my DH I can now spend the whole night in our bed together.
I was dubious about them working but they came with a 90 days no quibble guarantee so I thought I'd give them a go even though they were expensive (£225)
I have them set on rumble which is a rain and thunder setting. They're the best thing I've ever bought!

My other half's snoring increased over the years with his waistline, eventually 12 months ago i was sleeping on the sofa downstairs every night and could still hear him, I recorded it and emailed the recording to him. Told him he was a selfish git and to get it sorted. Not my finest hour but then I was chronically sleep deprived.

He went to the GP, long story short was diagnosed with severe sleep apnea and was stopping breathing 35 times a minute. Now has a CPAP, he has to use it as the lab reports acceptable levels of use to DVLA in order for him to keep his licence. He was furious and went on for weeks about how he was 'doing this for me and I'd never even thanked him'....until i got snappy and pointed out that no, he was doing it to stop himself from dying in his sleep. He hasn't mentioned it since....and i get to sleep in peace.

So they completely block noise ? Are they speakers too ? Just looking at a refurbed pair on the Bose website.

I feel for you. I've worn ear plugs for the last 20 years of our 26 years together. The noise my OH made was unreal. I got hysterical through lack of sleep and after intolerable sleepless nights I told him during a serious heart to heart that if he didn't do something about it, we would have to separate. Up until then he'd just laugh it off but when he saw how serious I was, he knew he had no choice. Being peri-menopausal didn't help but I just couldn't cope with the lack of sleep. Even with earplugs, he'd wake me up countless times every night. Going on holiday was embarrassing as everyone in nearby rooms or cabins could hear it. The kids partners were agog at the noises he would make. All so embarrassing. He tried a mouth guard, from boots which he used for years but this wouldn't last very long but then he found a mouth guard called somnowell and yeah, it cost a fortune but it saved our marriage. That sounds dramatic but that's what 26 years of sleep deprivation did. 🤷‍♀️ I really feel for you. Your partner really needs to understand how detrimental sleep deprivation can be

I totally understand. Separate rooms are the only solution unless he goes to the doctor. Mine won't.

Holidays are rare and when we do go away we need to rent a property and have separate rooms.

I have tried lots of different earplugs but these are the only ones I have found to be effective and quite comfortable -see earlier picture. Sometimes I only put one in the ear that is not on the pillow! I have cut the long tail off as it was annoying and can still take them out easily. I used to dread sharing a room on holiday because of the snoring- which was very loud but with these it’s fine.

See GP, get a sleep clinic referral. They'll test for sleep apnoa - it's done at home, they send out the equipment to do the tests, and if he has sleep apnoa he'll be given a CPAP machine which will 1) Cut out snoring IMMEDIATELY 2) Make him feel more rested 3) help him lose weight.
Sleep apnoa can be caused by being overweight but also makes it hard to lose weight...