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Original poster

To just go out tomorrow…

11 replies

Hourbyehours · 17/02/2023 22:17

It’s been a challenging week- I am
very lucky to have a mostly supportive partner but this is my 13th year of no help from him in the holidays… I know I’m probably being unreasonable but I have struggled with my son this week and felt quite low. Literally begged him to take a day off- self employed today or yesterday but didn’t even acknowledge it… AIBU to just go out tomorrow and leave him to it? I’m thinking cinema or beach by myself… I fear it will just be inflammatory

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YukoandHiro · 17/02/2023 22:20

YANBU. Please do it. If your mental health needs it just take that time and space. Do something just for you.

Summer2424 · 17/02/2023 22:23

Hi @Hourbyehours no YANBU x
Go and do something for yourself, you will feel so refreshed. Beach then cinema sounds great👍🌝

Nimbostratus100 · 17/02/2023 22:24

go and enjoy,

RedAndBlueStripedGolfingUmbrella · 17/02/2023 22:26

YADNBU, I know how exactly how you feel as been through it myself.
Mental health so important, you need a bit of time to do something for yourself for your sanity.
Even a couple of hours out just a walk along the beach, or watching something at the cinema as you say would be enough to refresh you
Do it 💐

Emmamoo89 · 17/02/2023 22:29

YANBU X

MichelleScarn · 17/02/2023 22:32

Is your son his son too? If so absolutely go out!

AlmostSummer21 · 17/02/2023 22:33

Is your partner your sons Dad?

how do they get on? (Whether he is or isn't!)

why would he not be Hapoy for you to go out tomorrow if he's not working?

Do you work?

sorry about all the questions, but I think they are all relevant.

Original poster
Hourbyehours · 17/02/2023 22:35

Yes I work, full time and he is our son! I feel guilty for resenting the fact he never takes time off- I know he is doing it for us

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Hourbyehours · 17/02/2023 22:39

Thank you for your kind replies x

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WhatHappenedToYoyos · 17/02/2023 22:43

I think more context is needed. How old is DS (13??)? What behaviours are causing you to feel this way? Do you normally work or have you taken annual leave to care for/supervise DS?

You need to have a proper conversation about how the week has been and how you didn't get the support you needed- ask DP why he felt he couldn't take a day off to help.

Personally I wouldn't just walk out as this may temporarily make you feel better but then you'll come home to resentment or anger probably from your DP. I wouldn't enjoy myself if all day I knew I was coming home to a potential argument.

boabitybowster · 17/02/2023 22:45

No context needed. Go out, treat yourself and have a wonderful day.

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