Was this neglect?

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So my parents are from a traveller background. I barely went to school as a kid and found it very hard to form friendships as a result.

I finally found a social circle at 13. Then my parents decided to move to another country. I wasn't put into school there and ended up moving to another country at 16 on my own where I ended up living in a squat.

I feel like this has really affected me as an adult. Would you say this is neglect? I love my parents but they have never owned up to doing anything wrong at all

Were you schooled at home? Or just no basic schooling at all? Because IMO yes that is neglect, every child should be given a basic education

I think it's hard to say that you were or weren't neglected. Your parents done what they believed was correct and in the traveller community this is what happened, they probably had the same upbringing, this doesn't mean its right. I think asking your parents isn't going to help and if you feel it's affected your life then perhaps some counselling might help. That being said every child should receive a education, love, food warmth, and medical assistance to name a few.

Of course it's neglect.

Not providing you with an education, either at home or by sending you to a school which provided one, is neglectful in my opinion.

No schooling at all. My dad said we could do it off our own backs if we wanted an education

I agree

Yeah this is pretty neglectful.
Sorry OP.
How's life for you now?

Yes it's neglect as they barred you from the opportunities an educated person has open to them

In your first post you said you barely went to school, if no school then yes not the best thing. Hopefully you've turned uour life around and got a education and if not its never too late

It was definitely neglectful, but your background and culture were totally different to the norm, so it's hard to form a fair comparison.
How did things feel at home? Were you loved, well fed and clothed, etc?

Is it because you are female? The traveller children I taught didn’t have any aspirations for an education as the girls’ job was to be a house wife/mother and the boys would just take after their dads (although to be fair, they were more keen to get the boys to school. The girl I taught was barely there even when her brothers were, and parents told me they didn’t care whether she went or not). It is neglectful of course but a cultural difference perhaps, rather than wilful neglect.

How did you learn to read/write etc? You must have had some kind of an education?

Yes, this is neglect but not uncommon. I am so sorry you suffered this. Have you managed to get the education you need as an adult?

I'm actually a professional now (lawyer) so maybe my dad was right! It's more the social aspect that has affected me tbh

Wow, well done OP! That must have taken some drive and determination! 👍

Well done for getting where you are. I wonder how many lawyers had your background - very few I would imagine!

Thanks everyone! I've been on work calls and will be for most of the afternoon so apologies for any late responses

Yes of course not allowing your children an education or social inclusion is neglect.

Very similar to my old boss. He was a traveller (fair grounds) and left school at 13 to raise his family. Now a successful lawyer (but a complete twat)

I would say no education and no stability in your life is neglectful yes