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AIBU?

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Waiting for something to go wrong

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Marinegreen87 · 16/02/2023 23:02

One of my closest friends is in an up and down relationship. They make up and break up but ultimately love each other so stay together. She wants commitment and babies (late 20s / early 30s) and he is less convinced but obviously loves her.

She keeps talking about thinking he will propose and sometimes it’s hard to stomach because we know he doesn’t always treat her that well - when it’s great it’s great but she tells us all the less good bits too.

Im in a new relationship of 6 months and while I love her (and things are good, we haven’t argued yet) she keeps asking how things are seems desperate for us to argue to normalise her relationship.

I love her but I’m feeling pressure to say something negative, kind of feel like she wouldn’t be unhappy if things did go wrong for us? I can be anxious at the best of times and it’s really stressing me out - plus hearing her talk about how perfect things are in her relationship when I know two weeks ago they weren’t!!

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Marinegreen87 · 16/02/2023 23:13

Sorry I guess my aibu is - Aibu to feel like she is waiting for things to go wrong for me? And aibu to find it hard to swallow it when she acts like he’s about to propose and buy her a house and all that jazz when I know that they have serious problems? I am happy for her when it is going well but I feel like it is portrayed as perfect when deep down it is t and it’s hard to stomach

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OliviaRose44 · 16/02/2023 23:18

It does sound like she wanting you to also confess to issues / arguments to make herself feel better about her own relationship so you’re not being unreasonable. I wouldn’t take it too much to heart and just continue to enjoy your healthy relationship! She will get bored of asking if your not answering her with relationship drama like she’s looking for

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