To be irritated by being told when to cross by a random?

[QuertyGirl]

I cycle everywhere. Often with a child on the back or along side me. This means I'm cautious.

This morning, on the way back from the school run I was waiting to pull out onto a busy road. This is a very popular cycle route.

A bloke came out from behind me on his bike (no problem with that) however he also decided to shout at me that there was no traffic and I could "go now".

I was too confused to say anything back but stopped and watched him cycle away. I had no desire to engage with him any further.

AIBU to be irritated by this sort of thing? I was not in his way or affecting him at all

YANBU to be irritated by a random man telling you how to behave like you are a child. It's practical mansplaining.

Perhaps he's used to cycling with his kids. When I'm with my kids I tend to call out instructions like that. Sometimes I accidentally still do it when cycling alone. 😂

If he was being overly helpful just ignore him. At least it wasn't anything offensive.

Yeah it's annoying. Make your own decisions.

Drivers often do this too: flash their lights to let you out, but then get annoyed when you don't go. I had one leaning on the horn at me a few weeks ago. Driver couldn't see what I could see: that actually, there was a biker hurtling towards me on my side and I'd have sideswiped him if I'd have gone on the driver's command.

Yanbu. I used to live on a narrow road with tricky parking and twice I had a man come and try and "help" me park the car. One time was a traffic warden. I wound down the window and said that I didnt need any help parking. He then replied oh I wouldn't want you to get a ticket. I replied I live in this street, I have a permit, and wound up my window.
The arrogance of men is breathtaking.

I cycle sometimes in groups, as part of arranged rides with my club or with friends. It’s the done thing on group rides for the one at the front of the peloton to call ‘clear’ if it’s safe to pull out. This then gets relayed down the line by each rider in turn (if it’s still clear).

The rider you’d encountered is probably used to doing group rides & thought he was extending the usual etiquette.

Oh God I hate this! I refuse to move and then they drive off, purposely shaking their heads.

I'm teaching my son to ignore the flashing and waving.

Obviously some cyclists are annoying prats to other cyclists, as well as to everyone else 🤨
Silly man.
I'd have been tempted to shout something rude at him, but maybe not with a child onboard

I could tell from your title it was going to be a man “helping” you. Ignore

Yanbu I call them king of the road types who can actually cause more harm as they’re not in the vantage point you’re in & can’t see what you can see. Why is it never women doing it to us?