Hubby playing football EVERY weekend

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AIBU?
my husband plays football at the weekend and is usually gone for 4 hours on a Saturday. I suggested he play every other week as we have three young children 8, 6, 3 and inevitably they have parties etc to go to on Saturdays and it is difficult to take all along if only one invited for example. Also I feel like he should be helping me with the childcare at the weekends- I suggested how he would feel if I went shopping every week for 4 hours and left him to it and he wasn’t impressed with that suggestion. I guess I’m just annoyed that he feels it’s ok to have half a Saturday to himself EVERY week! For info he goes out on a Monday eve for hobby and I go out on a Wednesday eve.
would it annoy you? Or am I being unreasonable?

DH is the same. He has matches on Saturday and training Sunday. I've said he can't do both because it's not fair so he usually picks Saturday.
It's still annoying though. I don't get a day off.

My DP does the same on a Saturday. He has DD for the morning though but inevitably it's for a shorter time than the 4 hours he's out and his is kind of ringfenced time as he's out of the house whereas I get drawn into things because I'm usually at home trying to do my own thing. I have been making noises about him cutting down or giving up when DD gets to school party age. The weekends where it's cancelled are so much nicer and more relaxed.

Start going out every Sunday

Problem solved

I found that playing sunday league was a better fit with family life.

you're usually done by lunchtime, whereas saturday football is right across the busiest part of the day.

plus the likelihood of you having conflicting events on a sunday morning is pretty slim.

why not suggest this?

it's also an opportunity for him to take the parental responsibility on a saturday, so it balances out more - he can do the parties/soft play etc.

In addition, Sunday league teams don't tend to train so seriously.

i would think you're unreasonable to ask him to stop altogether.
it's an important social activity, and may make up the majority (if not all) of his physical excercise.

as long as you also get a similar opportunity for yourself.

if you live in a reasonably sized town, there are also likely to be midweek floodlight leagues.

And? I know quite a few women who play team sport at the weekend.

And if their partner was unhappy with them being absent from family life over the weekend, the partner would be quite within their rights to raise it.

It's quite clear the OP is unhappy about being left to deal with everything for large parts of the weekend - that's not unreasonable. She's not suggesting all men everywhere should give up football.

Not everything is about men bashing.

I had 3 kids and a DH who worked away, so I had no choice but to get on with it. Let him play football, and you find something to do for 4 hours as well