To think a friend to all....

TheLostNights · 2023-02-14T22:26:18+00:00

Is a friend to none? I've actually backed off from someone like this. Full of affection and praise for me except I've noticed she is like that with everyone. Even if she's not particularly fond of them.

MichelleScarn · 14/02/2023 22:27

So you think because she's nice and is.polite even when she doesn't like someone she's a bad person?

Coffeellama · 14/02/2023 22:28

It’s called being a nice person!

Jennybeans401 · 14/02/2023 22:28

Yes,usually it's a sign of someone superficial and a bit fake. I was friends with someone like that, it's an act. The real person isn't so nice.

LemonDrizzle89 · 14/02/2023 22:30

Maybe she’s just trying to be kind and spread a little cheer? The world sure needs it right now.

Paturday · 14/02/2023 22:31

Hmm well I was a friend to everyone in school which meant I was nobody’s number 1. So I agree to an extent. I am nice and have high self esteem so it’s not a case of me being desperate for people to like me back, in my case 🤷🏻‍♀️

Paturday · 14/02/2023 22:31

As in, I didn’t buy into cliques

JamSandle · 14/02/2023 22:32

Some people are just nice. Nothing sinister about it.

AuntieEntity · 14/02/2023 22:34

I'm a bit like this in work. I try to get on with everyone because life's too short to not like someone. Do some of my colleagues get on my tits? For sure, but what's the point in making it a thing? Work's hard enough.

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TheLostNights · 14/02/2023 22:34

Well she complains about them all behind their backs so not exactly nice.
Problem is, when someone is like that you never know if they actually like you or if it's not genuine. Can't be bothered with all that.

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harrassedmumto3 · 14/02/2023 22:37

I had an ex-colleague (senior management) who called everyone 'amazing'. It does kinda take the shine off the compliment, when you realise that every man and his dog is getting it

UsingChangeofName · 14/02/2023 22:40

What a weird way of thinking

Are you actually saying you can't be friends with someone because they are nice to everyone ?

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TheLostNights · 14/02/2023 22:42

You must have missed the part where I said she also complains about them behind their backs?
As I said, it leaves me to question whether she is doing the same to me and is not actually genuine as everyone gets treated the same by her.

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HoboHotel · 14/02/2023 22:44

TheLostNights · 14/02/2023 22:34

Well she complains about them all behind their backs so not exactly nice.
Problem is, when someone is like that you never know if they actually like you or if it's not genuine. Can't be bothered with all that.

That's completely different. That's not about being friends with everyone, that's about being two-faced and bitching behind people's backs. Not the same thing.

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TheLostNights · 14/02/2023 22:45

She's most likely pretending to be my friend then as she is the others she gossips about

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saraclara · 14/02/2023 23:19

I knew someone like this. She'd bitch about another colleague to me, and five minutes later she'd be telling them how great they are, scattered with 'love you babes!'
I sometimes wondered how she dare do that with me standing there, knowing exactly what she really thought about them.

saraclara · 14/02/2023 23:21

HoboHotel · 14/02/2023 22:44

That's completely different. That's not about being friends with everyone, that's about being two-faced and bitching behind people's backs. Not the same thing.

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It iis if she plays the best friend-type behaviour with everyone though, like my ex-colleague did.

UsingChangeofName · 14/02/2023 23:31

HoboHotel · 14/02/2023 22:44

That's completely different. That's not about being friends with everyone, that's about being two-faced and bitching behind people's backs. Not the same thing.

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Exactly.

OP, you asked the internet if "a friend to all is a friend to none", so that is what people are answering.

CrackedLookingGlass · 14/02/2023 23:31

Well, do you actually like her and want to be her friend? It’s a two-way process.

maddy68 · 14/02/2023 23:31

Wow do you have issues.!

Some.people are warm , gragarious and good friends to many people. I am Blessed to be in a circle of people like this. It's not false or fake they're just nice

ichundich · 14/02/2023 23:35

If she bitches about her "friends" behind their backs you can be certain that she's doing the same to you. I'd stay away away her.

maddy68 · 14/02/2023 23:37

TheLostNights · 14/02/2023 22:42

You must have missed the part where I said she also complains about them behind their backs?
As I said, it leaves me to question whether she is doing the same to me and is not actually genuine as everyone gets treated the same by her.

Now you are drip feeding. If she's a bitch then not genuine. But you are doing exactly the same here

BadNomad · 14/02/2023 23:41

You are not unreasonable to not want to be friends with fake, two-faced backstabbers. But there are plenty of people who are genuinely nice and kind to everyone.

pattihews · 14/02/2023 23:44

A good friend is someone you can be yourself with and she can be herself with you. So if she's the kind of people-pleaser who is always nice to everyone and never judges and never goes any deeper than superficial pleasantries there isn't a hope in hell of us being friends. You want someone with a bit of character, someone human and not just permanently vanilla.