What would you think of this? (Newish guy)

[Bringinthetea]

So we have been dating for around 7 months. We get on, lots of chemistry etc although I would not describe it as at the commitment stage. However I have not heard from him at all today (Valentines day). Since this would be our first Valentines I was kinda using this to test his interest level. I.e, if he sent me flowers or at least a message then the interest of still wanting to see me is there. If not then he Is not that interested.

I must admit I was hoping for some acknowledgement as I was into him and I am a bit upset by it. I shouldn't see him again right? How would you feel about this? I feel like a bit of an idiot tbh.

I seen him a couple of days after my birthday and not so much a bunch of flowers. This is why I thought he might make it up on valentines buy nope, nothing.

I shouldn't see him again, right?

Tell him you want a committed boyfriend/girlfriend relationship.

If he says no then don’t see him again.

Ignoring your birthday is worse. I think after seven months a card and nice bunch of flowers would be the minimum really. How often do you see each other etc?

Although, to be honest. If he wanted a committed relationship he would have made that clear by now. So you may as well cut your losses and pie him now.

If after 7 months you haven't had 'the chat' and he completely ignored your birthday and valentine's then I don't think there's much to walk away from. If he messages you just tell him it's not working for you.

In my opinion 7 months is far too long to be still in the dat

7 months is far too long to stay in the dating stage in my opinion. I personally couldn’t do it. It should be clear by then if your into each other and only each other or not because in hindsight he could be off dating others and so could you without a label

I'd expect recognition of both birthday and valentine's in any relationship however new. People normally make more effort at the start.

If they don’t gift you for birthday, Christmas or Valentine’s Day they’re a straight next. No question.

He's not that into you. Clearly. Dump and run. You deserve better.

I wouldn't even bother having a conversation with him. I'd text him and end it.

This is wrong on many levels. 7 months is enough time to have reached some sort of commitment. Its far too long to have your birthday and Valentines ignored. He's telling you who he is and it's not a nice, reliable, kind man.

I think at least a chst is needed. Be direct,say what u want. If you want different things, walk away.

A man would know if he wants more after this amount of time, he is treating you exactly how he wants to and it's not the way a committed in love man treats his lover.

Do yourself a favour and cut him off, end it and look at why you put up with such disinterest.

Don't waste you time by having a chat. He has shown you very clearly who he is and what he thinks about you.

Feel disappointed for you OP, I’d personally be gutted.

Think maybe time to move on (hard though that can be).

7 months is quite a lot of time to invest in someone to get that in return and you deffo deserve better ❤️

Whatever you do, absolutely do not try to open up a chat about feelings / where do you stand / what he wants…. blah blah

Just gradually distance yourself.

Fair bet that when you start to appear unavailable to him, he will come running.

Whether you chose to accept that at that point, or whether you may have moved on by then…..time will tell

Personally I wouldn’t see him again. Why invest time with someone if they’re not really into you? If you’re looking for a long term partner, you’re just wasting your time with him. And even if you’re just looking for fun, at least have someone, who basically respects you and if up front about the situation.

Correct.