to think dh is being unreasonable to blame me for the actions of our cat?

[tigana]

I am at work.
I have just got text informing me that "my" cat has defecated generously around the house. ( I have paraphrased).

The cat in question does have 'issues' with using the litter trays.

BUT
I am at work...I did not suggest this behaviour to the cat, nor did I squeeze her over the carpets.
HE bought the cat (a few years ago), as a suprise, and not as the result of many hints etc.
The other cat is not referred to as mine.

When I get home this evening...I will be cleaning up cat poo that has had enough time to dry slightly and adhere to the carpet/rug/floor.

surely he will clean it up?

YANBU, when our dog does this and I am out DH refers to him as my dog. Also when DD needs a very dirty, smelly nappy changing DH says Your Child needs changing To which I reply I'll feed her you change her, DD is BF

for you, but your deffo not BU.

Why, will you be cleaning up the cat shit. When I was younger I went with my (then) fella to his mam's to pick up a pair of shoes and his cat had shit in the kitchen, then fella picked up his shoes and totally ignoring the sht walked out. I dumped him, I don't do selfish or lazy.

I get this too tigana. To be fair the cat was mine before we got together and he grudgingly accepted her into his home and she is a complete PITA - BUT - he will also tell me when she has done it but is happy to leave it festering there - the longer the better it seems so he can have a good old nag about it

He's just going to leave it there? That's weird.

But as to the blaiming you bit, my dh does this to me too. Whenever the cat throws up on the carpet, it's my fault and my cat.

But if I was out and he left it there for me to clean up....I'd be scooping it up and putting it on his pillow, in his sock drawer or in his bloody dinner!!

No dh would definately leave it there - or hilariously pretend he hasnt seen/smelt it and has just come across it (all candid like) just as I get in

He's seriously going to leave it for you to clean up? Is this the kind of chap who doesn't do nappies by any chance?

I think this kind of event would make a good screening process for potential spouses - must suggest it to dd when she's older.

I would blow my stack if he left it!!!!!

Tosser

I think your relationship is seriously out of kilter. You need a Big Talk about respect and responsibility.

He will leave it.

He does nappies...if I'm not there...but he has been known to vomit into the toilet while changing a nappy...he is fine with blood etc but poo and vomit turn his stomach...genuinely.

No...I will not be seeking a divorce on the basis on failure to clean up cat poo.

Well then that's good of you to accommodate him. Cat pooh, sick and especially partially eaten critters, don't do much for me either. Dh deals with it if he's there - but I certainly wouldn't just leave it, no matter how disgusting, if he was out.

I wouldnt move any dead things but thankfully she never brings anything in

DIVORCE HIM IMMEDIATLEY

My DH blames me when our dog does anything wrong... BUT, he would always clean it up and, to be fair, would always look after the dog should he not be well....

It did make me smile - my DH will sometimes act like I've been wispering in the dogs ear to poo on the floor / puke on the settee / slobber on his trousers...

Maybe I do.. when he's not looking....

so...on the petition for divorce how would one word this justification?
Dereliction of defecation disposal duties?

Nah, divorcing's too good for him.

You should bury him alive in cat shit.

Hmmm...I certainly collect enough of the sodding stuff.

When I say collect...

bloody hell Tig, that's grim.

What's wrong with stamps?

Rub his nose in it.

So if he hates shit so much what's he going to do now, go out for the rest of the day?

Ah binkle - you'd have to if you were on your own and you had a curious small dc around.

Dd (about 20 mo) once saw me trying to rescue a mouse that one of the cats had brought in. I was trying to explain that I had to get the mouse or said cat would eat it. Dd cheerfully offered: '(DD) eat it?'. Not a budding vegetarian yet then.

Send him a reply

"Well clean it up then"

Do you live in my house?...Dp brought me a kitten (which I didn't actually ask for but was happy to get) whenever she does anything that he finds annoying it is ALWAYS my fault and my problem to deal with.