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My dad is working himself to death

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FlyRobinFly · 14/02/2023 10:02

My dad is nearly 64 and working himself to death in a physical job that requires him to travel around the country. He has high blood pressure and is constantly ill and when he gets a cold he is knocked out for months. He is exhausted and depressed.

He has no assets, just a council property (rent £500) and work vehicle. No pension, my mum gambled it all away years ago. He’s forgiven her, they’ve stayed together and she doesn’t gamble anymore but it means he’s now in this situation.

Mum works part-time but is a carer for my adult autistic brother who will never work or move out.

They are in thousands of pounds of debt and as he is registered self-employed he’s got to pay £8000 tax this year. His income is about £30,000 but outgoings are just ridiculous.

There is no end inside and I am scared to death. I’ve had to go on antidepressants. I want him to be able to wind down and rest and he can’t, I think he’s going to drop dead.

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caramac04 · 14/02/2023 10:14

Will he engage with Christians against Poverty? Non-judgmental, very supportive and massively helpful with debts. Or StepChange which I believe is similar. Hopefully they could reduce the debt/stop interest building/write off debts.
Could your df look for a local job? I see his age but businesses such as B&Q positively look for more mature workers .

Maybe a garden centre?
Has he seen a gp? Sounds like a lifestyle change is needed but meds might help particularly if he possibly has high bp for eg.
I would definitely encourage him to work more locally, the travel alone is stressful and he needs to slow down I think.

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