To be sick of feeling like things "could be worse"?

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I'm mentally exhausted. I used to be such a resilient person. I used to be happy, friendly, bubbly, optimistic and kind. Now I don't recognise myself. I am so negative and miserable, after being worn down the past couple of years from covid, turning 40, having a baby and a H that does the bare minimum. I keep telling myself things could be worse, and least I have x,y,z. I'm actually lucky bla bla bla. But actually, I'm tired and miserable. Just wanted to vent, not looking for advice or sympathy. Feel free to vent too about your first world problems. Or tell me I am BU and to suck it up and be grateful for what I have.

Anyone .... ? 😐

Terrible phrase! You're allowed your feelings and they should be validated. Those annoying words like 'at least....' make me mad!!! I hope you get a good vent here and sorry you're feeling miserable xxx

Doesn't matter what positives you have, you are still allowed to be overwhelmed/feel down. Especially if you feel like you're not getting the support you need. Sorry you're struggling op

Thank you @GinaGina22 I think I just need a hug and some vodka (and a years sleep!!). It's hard to talk to anyone in RL when you're feeling so crappy, because who wants to deal with my negativity pants and also everyone else has their problems too. Thanks though, just feeling a bit sorry for myself 😳

Hugs - it's especially shit if you've been awake all night.

Have you any 'baby' friends? Having a good moan in RL can help too.

It doesn't matter if things could be worse, that doesn't stop them from being bad right now. The one up man ship that goes on is horrible.

Granted, you should read the room and maybe not complain about sore feet to someone in a wheelchair, or about how expensive council tax is on your 5 bedroom house to someone renting a tiny flat because it's all they can afford. But away from those large discrepancies it's ok to feel hard done by and to have a moan.

You feel how you feel and that's ok. I had a baby at 37 and was totally knackerred and rundown for a good 3 years. I'm in my mud 40's now and if it's not my back it's my sinus or it's a cold. I eat healthy and exercise but physically I feel rubbish. I did some CBT and had some hypnotherapy to help with mental health and I feel much better.

Yeah I do be careful not to moan if I have it better than someone and also not moan in general because who wants to be around that. I have some mum/baby friends but they have these bloody great partners so they don't really have that in common (plus they're new-ish friends so it's a bit hard to lay out the ugly truth too. I have one mum friend and her DH is actually worse than mine ... so it "could be worse" and for some reason she is really tolerant of it and laughs it off. She's just had another baby with him!). Thanks for listening and letting me moooooan. Damn first world problems 😮‍💨