12 yr old child, anxiety and low level bullying

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Can I ask your thoughts on this please. It's hard to take
Emotion out of it .
He has experienced low level bullying by a group of girls in his class for the last year. Calling him a cunt, fat etc. one of them went around the class and took a poll asking who hates him. When the boys wouldn't do it, they ticked that he was hated.
School dealt with it and rang parents .
The girls in question came in boasting the next day about ho they were not reprimanded by their parents .

So to today one of the girls pushed him and called him a fat cunt , he pushed her back. She fell. Teacher started roaring at him . Child was crying. Teacher refused to listen to him and continues to roar. I do not condone him pushing her and was cross about that.
He was punished and teacher refused to speak to him for rest of the day .

These group of girls have antagonised and goaded him continuously for the last year. He s one of a few that they do this to. Never any consequences from home according to them.

I am meeting with management tomorrow .
My son has severe anxiety and is under CAMHS . He has psychosomatic symptoms of stress and has started to refuse school.

AIBU to be so cross and emotional .
The girl denies she called him that . I believe him , hands down .

Her group of friends have denied that anything happened like that. They have form for sticking rigidly to their story so I feel I'm at nothing now .

I'd say that was much more than low level bullying. That's disgusting behaviour from those girls and I think I'd consider removing my son from the school. Your poor poor boy, he does not deserve that cruel treatment.

That is not "low level bullying" - in fact I am not even sure what low level bullying is. Its just bullying, and the school needs to get on top of it right now, some time ago, in fact

Agree that is not low level, that is repeated and quite extreme.

Wtf is the school doing?

Move him or home educate. I would categorically not send my child into that situation repeatedly.

It's a tough one as the behaviours are so insidious . They lie. It's hard to nail them and their parents are very relaxed

I’m so sorry your son is going through this. You need to make the school take this very seriously indeed. And look at your other options for him to move to. He should not have to put up with this at all.