Hi. Sorry for the rant.
We moved to a fairly rural area about 12 years ago. One brilliant pub.
At first my DH would go there a couple of times a week to watch the football. My visits would be that we bun would meet up after work on a Friday for a few drinks and maybe on a Saturday for meal and a drink.
7 years ago I had a mental breakdown.
After about 3 years of being pretty much comatose I was able to leave the house but only with DH there for support.
That remains the position now. Cannot leave the house without him. On good days I can go to M&S and this pub. He is great and insists that I come with to the pub to get me out of the house. Without him I would see no one.
Any way went there today. Place filled up quite quickly with men my husband knows. We were to there for 4 hours. I was ignored the entire time.
These men are all married or used to be married. I haven't seen any wife or partner in the pub with any of them the entire time I have frequented this pub.
All of them enjoy flirting with younger barmaids when they come out from behind the bar to socialise.
So. AIBU to expect adult men to be able to talk to fat, ugly pensioner woman or should I accept that a rural pub is a mans place
Or should I accept that they simply do not want to engage with a female they are not connected with?