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Accent slip - real or fake? (Not too serious)

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Idkrealorfake · 12/02/2023 18:12

M dp has a friend who visits sometimes after moving away some months ago to live in the region where they spent the first few years of their childhood.

I noticed that when they arrived to visit, we had a full conversation together and they spoke the same as they ever did, before the move.

Then a couple of hours later we were out in a restaurant and when speaking to the staff, the friend's accent changed entirely, taking on a different lilt and pronouncing words completely differently. The new accent didn't match that of the people running the restaurant either, who were from a different region to all of us.

After the meal, and for the rest of the visit, speaking to others etc the new accent didn't reappear again once.

We didn't say anything in the restaurant to the friend, but I mentioned it to dp afterwards. I thought the accent change seemed odd, especially as it didn't last long and never reappeared that weekend. Dp agreed they'd not heard that accent before from them, but suggested it could be something that happens naturally to people sometimes. I'm curious about it, and wondered what caused it and if it would be terribly rude to point it out if it happens again. I felt weird that neither of us mentioned it at the time, it was such a change.

I'm aware of code switching which makes sense to me and I find myself doing it sometimes myself, but it's not really a conscious thing and not a change to an entirely different regional accent.

This was more like switching from their regular Leeds accent to a Somerset one and then back to Leeds for the rest of the time.

What do you think caused it?

YABU, it's perfectly normal in these circumstances
YANBU, it's odd

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TheYearOfSmallThings · 12/02/2023 18:19

Speaking as someone who develops a dreadful South African accent when I'm speaking to Australian/NZ people, and an appalling Scottish accent when I speak to people from Manchester, I'm going to say it is perfectly normal. Blush.

Idkrealorfake · 12/02/2023 18:22

TheYearOfSmallThings · 12/02/2023 18:19

Speaking as someone who develops a dreadful South African accent when I'm speaking to Australian/NZ people, and an appalling Scottish accent when I speak to people from Manchester, I'm going to say it is perfectly normal. Blush.

Wow, never heard of that! Do you know why?

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Fimofriend · 12/02/2023 18:23

I have so far managed to refrain from stuttering when I talk to people who stutter but besides that I cannot stop copying the people I speak with. So I speak an unholy mixture of accents when in a meeting with people from many different countries.

TheYearOfSmallThings · 12/02/2023 18:24

Well clearly there is something not right with me Grin. I am going to get punched sooner or later, and rightly so.

IsItBedtimeYetNope · 12/02/2023 18:26

I inadvertently slip into a deep Brummie accent whenever I speak to anyone from the North. I have no idea how or why. It's really embarrassing. I'm just glad no one has ever mentioned it because I don't know how to not do it.

FannyFifer · 12/02/2023 18:28

Oh god, I do bizarre accents as well. Totally unintentional, will often start talking like who I'm talking to or a completely different accent all together, I can hear myself doing it, mortifying.

Booooot · 12/02/2023 18:29

My husband and I are full blown Australian for the entire time married at first sight is on. Then back to Cornish after!

Dmsandfloatydress · 12/02/2023 18:30

I am a code switcher and I mostly don't have any idea that I'm doing it. It really embarrasses my husband but I literally have no control so I've just learned to accept that it's part of who I am .

HarlanPepper · 12/02/2023 18:30

This is a pretty common thing to do to some extent, though with some people it's way more noticeable than others! I am similarly afflicted and I don't like it - however it's completely involuntary.

Idkrealorfake · 12/02/2023 18:33

I had no idea this was common! I think the thing that made me think it wasn't accidental was that the friend told the waiter they'd moved to their original home town recently, and that's when their accent changed. Like it was a conscious decision. Esp since the staff didn't have that accent either.

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adriftabroad · 12/02/2023 18:34

There[s reams about it if you google. It is a thing.
I become 100% Irish as soon as I chat to an Irish person.

Idkrealorfake · 12/02/2023 18:35

adriftabroad · 12/02/2023 18:34

There[s reams about it if you google. It is a thing.
I become 100% Irish as soon as I chat to an Irish person.

Yeah it wasn't like they were copying anyone. No one else there had that accent.

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greenacrylicpaint · 12/02/2023 18:36

I moved around a lot. my accent is all over the place.
I can go from one to the other within the same sentence.

adriftabroad · 12/02/2023 18:36

Idkrealorfake · 12/02/2023 18:35

Yeah it wasn't like they were copying anyone. No one else there had that accent.

Oh? In that case it is odd. Very odd.

Bubblebubblebah · 12/02/2023 18:37

People change accents or at least intonation kften.
When I movedy family laughed at me for this. I am foreign with EE accent who picked up another fucked up British accent. It's an abomination.

Idkrealorfake · 12/02/2023 18:37

greenacrylicpaint · 12/02/2023 18:36

I moved around a lot. my accent is all over the place.
I can go from one to the other within the same sentence.

I've never heard this person do that before, and have spent quite a lot of time with them. And it was a very distinct change, not all over the place. And it carried on during the meal when speaking just to us, and we have the same accent usually.

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TheYearOfSmallThings · 12/02/2023 18:38

Yeah it wasn't like they were copying anyone. No one else there had that accent.

Sometimes in a desperate attempt not to blatantly imitate a strong and infectious accent (eg Manchester) the best I can do is spin the wheel 30° and land on Scottish.

Basically just pretend he's not doing it and try not to cringe.

TheYearOfSmallThings · 12/02/2023 18:40

Btw it sounds like you just don't like the guy and want to believe he's up to something sinister.

Bubblebubblebah · 12/02/2023 18:42

I wonder of accent change affects personality like different language does🤔

SadCatNight · 12/02/2023 18:42

Yes. I'm the same with Scottish and Australian.

Especially in the States as lived there for a while.

I also find it means I'm understood a lot easier so I sort of embrace it and just have to tell my DH to get over it.

Better than keeping my London accent and having to repeat myself for a fortnight.

JustFrustrated · 12/02/2023 18:43

What is code switching?

I do the accent thing. I don't mean to at all.

I can switch to Black Country, Yorkshire, New Zealand and Liverpudlian in one conversation. It is usually a key to how passionate about something I am.

My usual accent is incredibly neutral, most people would be hard placed to figure it out. Because it doesn't exist. I had an accent, then had it trained out of me. Annoyingly becuase there was nothing wrong with it.

I also say words in stupid ways e.g. glass becomes gl-ar-s and garage becomes gar-ah-ge. It's horrible.

slamfightbrightlight · 12/02/2023 18:43

It’s called bidialectal - see Gillian Anderson and John Barrowman who both have two accents depending on who they are speaking to. I do too - it weirds people out but it’s automatic depending on who I’m speaking to, I can’t control it.

Pocketfullofdogtreats · 12/02/2023 18:43

You know that actor John somebody who was in Dr Who and Torchwood? Sorry can't remember his surname. Well I remember him being interviewed and saying he has an American accent until he phones his parents, and then he's back to Scottish.

Idkrealorfake · 12/02/2023 18:44

TheYearOfSmallThings · 12/02/2023 18:40

Btw it sounds like you just don't like the guy and want to believe he's up to something sinister.

No, no one's perfect and the friend is plenty of fun in other ways. But this did strike me as a bit performative but I couldn't fathom the motivation.

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Silverboot · 12/02/2023 18:46

Not really on topic but I was once in love with a Dubliner who moved to Canada then New York State as a teenager. My god his accent 😍