I recently had a baby unexpectedly premature. Hours after it, my friend called me and, although in a painkiller/trauma haze, I picked up the phone thinking it might make me feel better. I said, ‘hello! I’m in hospital, I’ve just had the baby’ and she replied ‘oh no… I’m sorry… I don’t know what to say… sorry… ok I’ll leave you then bye’ and hung up. It made me feel much worse about the situation - no congratulations or anything. She texted me some days later, I replied, and after that heard nothing - no text/call/card sent, let alone a visit. She texted me weeks later apologising for lack of contact and, too hurt, I didn’t reply.
She is probably struggling with low level depression but nothing in particular has happened with her (she said “I don’t know what’s wrong with me” re her lack of contact). We are usually close and this has been the hardest time of my life.
AIBU to think she’s been a shitty friend?