To ask what I do now? Separation.

[Itsallover1]

DW (both female) and I have a 1 year old. She’s not happy and told me this morning that she wants to leave. Nobody’s cheated or anything like that. She’s just fallen out of love, I suppose.

We own a house, and of course we have the baby. Please someone tell me what I do first.

To add to the above, I don’t have anyone in real life. Not one single person.

You both need to sit down and talk it through. Talk through what this means for custody, for how you are both going to sort out where to live etc.

Right ok. So you've only just found out. No need to make big decisions quickly. I would suggest you both sit down separately and write down what you would like on terms of housing/contact etc and then come together and see if you can discuss it civilly.

Just wanted to send virtual hugs 💐 and say sorry this is happening to you today. Do you not have any family/friend/acquaintance/neighbour you can phone for support? If not I’m sure the lovely people of Mumsnet who have been through similar will soon be along to give you some helpful advice.

Aww sending hugs my love. This is awful

if you have the room in the house I’d look at exploring if you both feel like you can still live together in a housemate situation if you haven’t had a massive fall out and there’s no ill feeling.

The financial and stability benefits for both you and your child would be enormous.

Of course it’s going to take a little bit of work and understanding and also acceptance that you are both now single and may go on to meet new partners down the line but whilst the dust settles, and your child gets older (Childcare seems to get a lot easier once they hit school) if you are still getting along as people who are friends rather than a couple, this may give you both space and room to both be present co-parents and friends, allow you both to plan and save for a future (where possibly one of you will move out eventually) etc.

Hugs. I think you need to both take time to think and reflect on what separation means. Are you both on the birth certificate for instance? Is your little one formally adopted/registered to the non biological parent? Coparenting is hard but your situation adds extra issues to the mix. Perhaps she doesn't know what she wants or is there someone else?

Sending hug

Firstly are you sure she hasn't met someone else? Are you the biological mother? (that might affect arrangements for the baby?)