To find DP infuriating sometimes.

[LittlemissMama67]

For context we have 3 children 1 of which is 4 months old. I'm home 7-5 everyday with the 2 youngest and oldest is at school. I never stop during the day and I haven't had a full nights sleep in 5 months. I had awful insomnia at the end of my pregnancy.. so.

i do 90% of the childcare. That's just how it is. He works full time and helps around the house but most of anything to do with the kids I do. I can't trust him to settle baby at night because he "can't stay awake" 🙄

anyway so last night, after settling baby twice, her being sick all over herself and me twice. Which resulted in 2 outfit and sleeping bag changes. My side of the bed being soaking wet so sleeping on top of my dressing gown and his snoring behind me I lost it. I broke down. He woke up and was like are you ok? And I was like no, I'm really not. I'm exhausted. I haven't had a proper nights sleep in 5 months. The beds soaking, I've been sat here rocking her for 20 minutes and she's still awake. Im running on empty here. And he fucking started snoring and fell asleep while I was breaking my heart to him. I wanted to send him to the sofa. But I didn't.

when I finally got baby in her cot and laid down to sleep myself he snuggled in behind me and whispered "sorry baby I know I should help more" and kissed my shoulder and rolled over. I just laid there thinking OMFG I actually hate this man.

now if I'd written this last night if have used some stronger words. But now I've slept I'm thinking AIBU? I mean he is working and I'm on maternity but it still feels really unfair. And the hurt in my heart last night. I was really really upset.

See if I woke my ex up in the middle of the night and said change the sheets hold the baby etc he would be pretty pissed off at me barking orders at him most people would like an explanation FIRST but its really hard to explain what's wrong and what you need help with when he falls ASLEEP

Why do people have so many kids and then complain non stop?
Have less children.
I knew right after the first I wouldn't be able to cope with any more small children so I didn't have any.

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Bloody hell, just because it's hard sometimes dosnt mean I can't cope. I swear if you have more than 2 children people just seem to give themselves a pass to slag you off, I've never once complained about day to day life with 3 kids. When I was pregnant with my 3rd I didn't know my 2nd would start showing signs of autism but they did. And now I have 3 children and one has SEN.

dosnt mean I regret my decisions just means I'm bloody tired.

For fucks sake. He ALSO conceived the children. And should do more than 10% during the day and more than 0% during the night.

Why is it OP responsibility alone?

OP, I think some women who leave abusive relationships can have relatively low standards for the next one. Do you think that might be something at play?

Not being abusive isn't enough. He should be an equal and caring partner. If you're breaking he should care and do something about it.

Not roll over and go to sleep.

Blimey. I'm shocked at people having a go at you! It's not your fault!

But he needs to step up, and you need to let him.

People can be quite high and mighty I think, I didn't think I'd be majority responsible for 3 children 90% of the time but I'm sure dp thought he'd have to work 55 hours a week to support us either. Cost of living and all that. People can't even have a moan without the shouldn't have had so many children brigade coming after you. 3 isn't even a lot. I guess it's more than society's norm of 2 but Christ it's not like I have 9

Hey OP 👋 I have twins that were a contraceptive fail. They are the absolute best things in the world ever. I love them with a ferocity I didn’t know was possible. I still often have to scream into a pillow because fuck my life they’re dicks sometimes. I’m on my own but I’m on your side. All those getting on their pearl clutching high horse about having too many kids need to pipe down. It’s ok to moan, you can love your partner and he can be a good partner at the same time as you wanting to stab him in the head with a fork. All those feels are justifiable. Mine are 9 now and I regularly marvel at how infrequently they make me want to scream 🤣 I’m bracing for the teenage years.