To go to parents with a cold

[Grettaetta]

me, Dh and kids are due to go to my parents later on today. I’ve had a mild sore throat for couple of days and have woken just now with a snotty nose. Would you avoid going? It’s a trip that the kids have been looking forward to for ages. Parents are in good health at the moment. Obviously if they got a cold they might feel pants but it shouldn’t make them very ill or anything…..

I'd go. My parent's are in good health and i know they'd want me to. If you are unsure how they would feel ask them. We'd never manage to go anywhere if we all had to be cold-free!

Someone visited me in October last year with "a bit of a cold" I still haven't recovered fully despite 4 different antibiotics and 2 weeks where i couldn't even get out of bed over Christmas. It wasn't Covid but it made me extremely ill.

I wouldn't, partly because one of my parents is ECV and if it was covid, he is at risk of serious complications/death.
Also partly because the last "just a cold" one of them gave to us left DP feeling like death for weeks before antibiotics thankfully helped him start to feel better. He was so tired and rough he was a day or 2 away from not being able to work, and my parent telling us how "it had only been bad for me for a week or so" didn't help at all when DP was on week 4 of being very, very unwell.

@turrrniiipz but for many people the only symptom they have with COVID is "a cold". Hence we can no longer assume a cold is just a common cold, it could very well be COVID. Which even if it presents as mild symptoms still causes hidden damage, such as increased risk of heart attack and stroke. The only way the OP can be sure it's not COVID is if she gets a PCR test.

If we cancelled plans everytime one of us had a cold we would never leave the house. Ask your parents, my Mum would think I'd lost the plot if I said I wasn't going to visit because I had a cold.

A cold has put me in hospital afew times

So a cold isnt ‘just a cold’ for some people !

This! I have asthma so when I get a cold I usually end up in the hospital.

As I said, medically vulnerable people should be considered more carefully.

Generally, the majority of people do not need to hide away and make a fuss over a runny nose and a sniffle, that isn't actually hugely contagious anyway.

I'd be upset if someone visited me with a cold, so I'd ask them first.

It's very nice for people for whom a cold is a mere, minor irritation, but for many of us feeling ill makes life difficult and depressing (and why people who are luckier than others so often want to undermine the less fortunate god knows, it's a horrible way to behave).

I would tell them out of courtesy.

What did you decide to do OP?