Hi, I’m new to this forum so please be nice :-)
Sorry it’s a bit long.
I thought I made a good friend with my neighbour. Having lived in my flat for over 20 years with my son, I used to keep myself to myself. Neighbours were polite and friendly but I would never involve myself with them.
The neighbour in the next block of flats has lived here for a few years and as a few of us has issues with our flats she was gathering information to contact our landlord.
We got talking and exchanged numbers. She would invite me for dinner and I would do the same. I thought I had met a decent friend but as time has gone on I’ve realised she’s taken advantage and has messed me around with plans.
One day she asked me if I could look after her boy as she had the doctors. She said she would be 45 minutes but she was gone for 1.5 hours. I had planned a night in with my son to have a takeaway. She did text and say sorry there’s traffic but it was only a 5 minute walk down the road. Her son said she had taken his X-box to be repaired so why couldn’t she have been honest and tell me where she was really going? In the end I told my son to order his takeaway and I would make something when I got home. My whole Friday night was ruined.
Then we arranged to go to see the fireworks she let me down 10 minutes before we were due to meet. I messaged in the morning to confirm the time which she took ages to respond then last minute says she’s not well and sorry she’s not replied she’s been in and out of sleep and she wasn’t going to the fireworks. So I was left waiting around half the day not knowing what was going on.
Then at Christmas Eve she invited me for dinner we arranged 5pm. She texts me 2 hours before and asked if I could go over to hers now as she needs to get cat food and her son doesn’t want to go to the shops. She said it would make more sense if I went there to chill. I said no I see you at 5 I’m painting my nails.
Anyway I get there when it’s time to eat she doesn’t even sit at the table tells me she’s forgotten her Yorkshire pudding so I’m sat there just with her little boy. Bless him telling me funny stories. She never did put her Yorkshire pudding in the oven nor eat her dinner she spent most of the time in the kitchen and then she kept going outside either for a fag which she rarely smokes, putting the rubbish out and letting the cat in and out.
This wasn’t the first time she kept going out. Last time she invited me over for dinner every time I started a conversation within 15 minutes she was out the door. She must of got up 5 times mid conversation. So I thought to myself I’m not going to be around someone who makes me so unwelcome when they invite me over.
Another thing is she seems to know about everyone’s business. She will tell me something then says I will find out. One night I had my fella over and we were smoking a cigarette at the balcony she happened to drive passed. She was so busy trying to look up at my balcony that she drove her car up the kerb.
I just feel like she’s messed me around too much now and I now want to keep my distance. She texted me 2 weeks ago asked me how I was but I just ignored it. I dread walking to my car passed her flat in case I see her and for her to invite me over or make plans to go somewhere. I don’t like confrontations or arguments but making friends with my neighbour has turned out to be a big mistake. I guess I can just make excuses about being busy or just keep on ignoring her messages if she ever messages again in the hope she get the message?