We have a 3mo, a 3yo and an 8yo. 3yo has been sick with gastro for the last 3 days, baby is super clingy and sleeping badly. Dh had to travel overnight for work during this time, which was unavoidable and it took him out of the house for a full 2 days with leaving at 5am and returning the next day at midnight. It has meant that I've solo parented for days now, listening to a screaming 3yo with tummy pains, and getting not a moment without being touched or cried at etc. It's been a shit show but I got through it.
Today dh is wfh and our 3yo is off preschool again because of his illness. I've asked dh for help to be with the baby a few times so I could put laundry on etc but have been met with stressed looks and "I'm so behind", and I feel like I'm just having to shoulder the whole burden of extra childcare and sickness and house work while he gets to just do his job. But it is his work so fair dues.
Then he tells me he needs to pop out for 90 mins to get his hair cut, drop off some ironing and some other non urgent thing and it made me really annoyed. He can take time out to do his own shit but not help me out when I'm at the end of my tether? I know it's not a competition of who is having the hardest time but it hurts when he makes time for his own things but not help me make time for what I need to do (which might be 10 minutes break from whinging kids or a shower on my own, not exactly self care..).
Aibu to think he has his priorities mixed up? Or am I just tired and angry and directing it at dh?