That my sister is being a cf?

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My sister hasn't had a car since September through choice and keeps 'thinking about looking for a new one' but doesn't want a second hand car in case it breaks down. Meanwhile she is borrowing my mum car multiple times per week and my mum is picking her daughter up in the morning and taking her to school most mornings and then picking her up and taking her back home again, my sister lives a 15 minute walk to the school and works from home. I had a period of a week a few weeks ago when I had two cars so I offered to borrow her one of mine for the week until I needed it back. She said she would give me something for borrowing it (I didn't ask for anything) and it has never materialised. She also regularly leaves my mums car without any petrol in, when my mum picked it up recently it had 9 miles left in the tank. It came to a head tonight as me and my mum had plans to go to theatre and my mum had to use public transport to get there and I had to drive her back home as she had 'promised' my sister her car so she could go out with a friend, if i hadn't dropped her home she would have had a 30 minute walk home across a field. I said to my mum that she is starting to take the piss out of both of us now and she is going to run her car into the ground (it's old!) and then buy herself a new one. My mum flew off the handle and called me selfish. She is on 50k a year and lives in a council house meanwhile I'm a student on a low income and my mum is on her own on a low ish income paying high rent.

Yes, of course she's being selfish but you don't have to enable it.

YANBU, did get you car back?

Just curious what her council house has got to do with it?

Yes I got it back with less fuel in it than I lent it to her with and didn't even get as much as a bunch of flowers!

No one who earns £50k should be in a coucil house

I mentioned the council house as she pays a very low rent compared to market rent and therefore has more disposable income than the rest of us.

Your sister is a CF but:

1. You could resolve it by not giving her your car
2. Her interactions with your mother are absolutely none of your business

Stop enabling her CF behaviour. She sounds so immature and spoilt. Ugh and she is a mother too.

She is a CF, but your mum wants to enable her. Very unfair of your mum to call you selfish when you clearly aren't. I'd avoid the subject of your sister with your mother, and I'd probably be avoiding my sister if I was you.

Should have let your mum walk, let her run the car into the ground. If your mum wants to run round after her there's nothing you can do sadly. That would be the last time I drove my mum anywhere. No wonder she doesn't want to get a new car when the kids are being taken and picked up from school and she can borrow mums whenever she wants to. They're both being cf to you tbh

"so I offered to borrow her one of mine for the week"
Can I just say that you don't 'borrow ' her something, you 'lend' it. You lend, she borrows. I know, pedantic cow I am but I see this on here and can't fathom why seemingly literate people do this mistake. Sorry etc.
(YANBU by the way and yes it is your business if your mum's being taken advantage of but seems like she's fool enough to be a sap. Sisters a lazy bint and should be walking. Don't lend her your car or facilitate your mum not being inconvenienced. Shame the woman. Can't walk 15 mins and is too scared to buy a second hand car? Lame)

So you did your mother a favour of picking her up and she called you selfish? I wouldn't lend your sister a car and I wouldn't help your mum if she's put out by duster's actions. Leave them to it.