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AIBU to think this is definitely cancer

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Gogodonu · 08/02/2023 17:34

i felt a hard firm non moveable lump deep inside my breast 2 weeks ago. I had the referral appointment today had a mammogram and ultrasound and examination. Ultrasound lady said she can rule out it isn’t a cyst and pleased to say it hasn’t spread to the lymph nodes. They did a biopsy and results back and an appointment to discuss end of next week.

Has anyone had a similar experience and it hasn’t been cancer? So a lump that isn’t a cyst but not cancer.

I have three young children and am feeling very worried :-(

Thanks

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Gogodonu · 28/02/2023 13:48

Thank you for the kind words. Yes i have support my OH and three young children. Im in my late 30's, no breast cancer in the family, it was a big shock. The plan is a lumpectomy next week followed by radiotherapy.

Unfortunately we have a 'trip of a lifetime' holiday to Florida booked for late March, as its so close im unable to cancel/reschedule and unfortunately booking travel insurance was still on the to do list.

Does anyone have any experience of travelling around 2 weeks post lumpectomy op? The radiotherapy isnt until 6 weeks post op so the holiday would fit in between just hoping i feel well enough. Thanks

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MinnieMountain · 28/02/2023 13:53

Sorry to hear that OP.
I felt well enough for a weekend away at a wedding 2 weeks post-lumpectomy. You won’t be allowed to swim though.

HoopaPoop · 28/02/2023 14:13

After my lumpectomy I felt washed out from the general for a few days then fine, you may have a drain , physio exercises to do and a list of what you can't do e.g. lifting anything. Speak to your breast care nurses about what to expect. If you do decide to go make sure you do have travel insurance mine hasn't been that much more than normal but you will only be a few weeks post op, I wouldn't go abroad if I didn't have it.
I walked miles because I couldn't drive straightaway and was back running after 4 weeks.

caaamhs · 28/02/2023 14:15

Can't comment as I had a mastectomy but I carried on as usual after that pretty much, except for any heavy lifting / stretching. My mum had a lumpectomy and was okay a couple of weeks after, took that long though to be comfortable with e.g. seatbelts - and as Minnie says you wouldn't be able to swim. Obviously you can't predict any complications etc but having lost so much of my life to this and the pandemic I'd say go for it and enjoy it as a well-earned post-surgery and pre-radiotherapy break! I hope the insurance isn't too bonkers though.

caaamhs · 28/02/2023 14:17

Definitely recommend the Young Breast Cancer Network, lots of women similar age to you OP and many with kids, you'll get good advice there 😊

Ariela · 28/02/2023 14:37

My friend had a trip abroad booked after surgery before radiotherapy and was told by consultant to go, she rather enjoyed it as could lounge by the pool with a book a lot more than usual while husband entertained the kids. As you've nothing to get back from cancelling, I'd check with the consultant he/she is happy for you to go.

VirginiaQ · 28/02/2023 14:51

Hi had the exact same diagnosis 7 years ago. I had a lumpectomy first and then it was 7 weeks until they started chemotherapy. Frankly the lumpectomy turned out to be a non event and I went back to work two weeks after the op. Would have been a week if it had only been a straight forward desk job but it wasn't.

Obviously it's not the same as travelling but I would have been fine and wished I'd gone away now myself so I would definitely go.

Daffodilsandtuplips · 28/02/2023 14:52

kittycreative · 08/02/2023 17:55

I had an abnormal mammogram , had to attend the hospital. Out of a group of six of us there were just two of us who had to have a biopsy, I was one of them.
They showed me on the screen the area of concern, I had a cancer marker put in and it all turned out to be absolutely nothing of concern, just calcifications.

Please don't panic, I find the hospital staff are very thorough, sometimes too much so but I understand why.

I had this, six little white dots on the mammogram. They were all in the same breast and looked like grains of sugar, I’d never have found them on my own.
They were taken out during biopsies, sent off to be tested. They were all benign.

poetryandwine · 01/03/2023 14:48

I am so sorry about your news, OP. Not what anyone wished but it sounds like it’s been caught early, which is the most important thing. I hope you get that trip and that it is indeed fabulous.

704703hey · 01/03/2023 14:51

Ah I'm sorry. Never nice news. Wishing you all the best, you have an extremely good chance of recovery

DilemmaDelilah · 01/03/2023 19:16

I have several fibroadenomas, and I had a phylloides tumour (NOT cancer) which was benign and was removed. There are all sorts of things it could be.
Also - I was recalled after my last mammogram as it showed considerable skin thickening around the nipple. It's turns out it is some sort of dermatitis rather than cancer - although I had already convinced myself it was and had started making plans for how to deal with it and what to do with what remained of my life.
I really hope everything goes well for you.

Ztha · 13/07/2023 23:18

Sorry to hear this
I hope you feel better soon.
Can you let me know how does ur lump felt on examination? Is it hard on palpation sittin down /lying ? Or it feels same in any position when u chk it? I am a lump so need some advice how to chk it properly?

porridgeisbae · 13/07/2023 23:19

I had a papilloma. Completely harmless.

porridgeisbae · 13/07/2023 23:22

So sorry to hear you didn't get the all clear. How're you doing now OP?

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