Bloody vultures

[Cinnamongirlinthesand]

My mum died recently, left a will but certain members of family want more jewellery etc. No, I'm executor, they can have whatever is willed to them.
So hacked off with the sheer greed of some people and can see a big family fall out soon.
Not even had funeral yet.
Just so pissed off with it all.

This doesn't help but reminds of the time a brother and sister ended up cutting a dining table in two just so neither of them could have it. Pathetic.

Tell the arseholes that your poor mother has not even been laid to rest yet and they will receive what is duly theirs when the estate is being wound up. If they ask about extras then unless it was bequeathed to them it rightfully remains property of the estate of your late mum.

Alternatively, tell them to get to fuck.

Tell them to fuck off. I'm sorry OP, death really does seem to bring out the worst in some people.

When my exes father was dying he told his son to come and get his watch, wallet and the small amount of money inside it, before his greedy family could take it. When ex got to the hospital only the empty wallet was left.

a close friend was executor of her mothers will. one sister in particular swore her mom has promised her a piece of jewellery. she hunted high and low (indeed finding hidden assets although no jewellery).
in order to keep the peace between family she went out and bought pearl and white gold stud earrings from a well known (albeit very very established jeweler) and simply boxed it and claimed to have found it. the kind of shop where you would not be able to tell if the item was 10 days or 10 years old.
obviously in the whole scheme of things there were sufficient funds to sort this without any distress.

Condolences to you op

I’m so very sorry for your loss .

I'm sorry for your loss.

I'd give people what they want and tell them never to darken my door again.

My friend had a similar issue and solved it in a cunning way to get the point across. She asked the wife of the greedy vulture for a specific item while he was standing next to her. My mate said that while he asked for an item before the deceased was buried, she would ask for an item before he died! That shut him up and he didn't even attend the funeral or claim the item he was bequeathed.

Even when you are adult there are many strong emotions, sad/happy memories, long held grudges that come to the fore when a parent dies.

Does every parent treat every child equally?

This just seems to be what happens.
Try to humour everyone - a year later everyone will wonder what the fuss was about and the 'precious' heirlooms will be forgotten.