To think this is thoughtless of them?

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DH has ulcerative colitis but is well managed. However, his work colleagues get offered free lunches and DH always turns them down because he has to be careful what he eats.
However, his colleagues keep ribbing him, saying that they never see him eat, why is he not eating etc and laughing hysterically everytime he turns down the food. Aibu to say this is thoughtless given that they know he has this condition?

I have uc. If my work colleagues did this o would assume they were immature, uneducated total wankers.

His colleague sounds like a first rate idiot.

Yanbu. They sound like a bunch of idiots especially as they know of his condition. Maybe they need to educate themselves a bit more on how debilitating this condition can be. Your DH isn't turning down a free meal for no good reason.

Do they actually know or has he made hints, skirted around things and not actually told them? If he has and they're acting like this, they're not mates, they're bullies.

They sound awful

They all know of his condition.

Has he said because I have a medical condition which means I can’t eat this food?

Not everyone with IBD has to limit their food. They may not realise that your husband needs to.

If they know he has this condition why are they still offering him the food, and why do they find his refusal so hysterically funny ? It’s not just thoughtless it’s downright ignorant. You say you think it’s thoughtless, but how does your DH feel about it ? If it were me I would confront them and ask them, given that ulcerative colitis is such a horrible and restrictive condition to live with, why do they find it so funny ? Disability is a protected characteristic in the workplace and this could be seen as a form of harassment, and I would have no hesitation in telling them that they could get into a fair bit of trouble if it doesn’t stop. And pronto.

He said he has to be careful what he eats as doesn't want to have a flare up but it has still continued.

Why else would he be refusing the food ? OP has stated they all know he has the condition so it’s not difficult to make the connection.

They sound really immature and neanderthals. Sorry to read your husband is constantly having to deal with there bullying. If I were your dh then I would be putting in a formal complaint about them. If he doesn't want to go down that route. Then sadly he's going to have to put them in there place.

Muppets!

His colleagues sound immature and their behaviour is bullying. Your DH needs to start up for himself. Can't the workplace provide him with something suitable if everyone else is getting free lunches?

I have UC and most people haven’t a clue what it is and forget I have it instantly, they are most probably ignorant to what it actually is. He maybe needs to explain what a flare up is as in ‘if I eat certain foods they can trigger a flare which can make me really ill for months and potentially hospitalised so if you want to cover my work for me while I’m away then pass it over yeah!’

Bunch of wankers.

I’d be so upset and tbh would have a word with HR if I had raised it and said - this is due to my condition, I don’t find it funny and they still hadn’t stopped.

Could he just say lay off the jokes about his medical condition because they are just boring now. He could say that he doesn’t rib them about their personal stuff.

It's definitely not thoughtless, it's deliberate. Do it bother your husband? Has he come home and told you about these things and how much it upsets him? Have you witnessed it?
I asked because I think context is everything. I've worked on site where 'bants' is common. The difference is nowadays if someone let's you know they want you to stop most people accept to do otherwise is bullying. So lads might sing Who ate all pies? Or tease someone for being 'under the thumb' but if your DH finds it unpleasant and they continue to do it that's wrong.
I'd start off with the 'encouraging' route rather than insisting or threatening (though these are options).
I think many men find the balance between tease and hurt a difficult concept to manage.

He just mentioned it last night and looked upset.
He takes his own lunch in and generally, does all the cooking in the house because he is careful about what he eats.
I will advise him to repeat what happens if he eats something that doesn't agree with him, if this doesn't stop, then he will have to escalate it to HR.
Honestly. Don't know what is wrong with people. The ignorance is astonishing.

It sounds like he works with children. Yes it's not ok. I can't imagine working with people like this is very pleasant.

As someone with a bowel condition, I can understand why he's upset.
Although they know he has UC, do they actually know what it is and what it's really like to have a flare up?

Work colleagues can be pretty thick. There does come a point where it becomes bullying.