To think he’s given me something

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Pumblee · 04/02/2023 13:37

I recently slept with my ex, I haven’t slept with anyone else since we broke up.

Recently I’ve had some unusual discharge (TMI sorry) and dull aching pain. I thought it was my period but it feels different and has lasted a few weeks.

We never used protection stupidly, because we never did when we were together. I asked him when he last got tested and he said when we got tested together years ago! I told him I think he’s given me something to which he replied for me to get a test and he will too! I admit I was upset because to me he’s been out doing whatever, came and slept with me knowing what he’s been doing.
I told him I took a test and he said good let him know how it goes. Is it me? Am I being dramatic? I feel like he’s being far too blasé about this. I do totally understand he’s free to do what he wants, and I am also complicit in having unprotected sex. Me personally I wouldn’t have unprotected sex untested with multiple people

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BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz · 04/02/2023 13:41

Only way to know is to get yourself tested. It's pretty foolish to have unprotected sex, outside of a committed relationship, so all you can do now is get a check up, and learn from it.

Are you at least on a contraception to prevent pregnancy?

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Pumblee · 04/02/2023 13:45

Yep I’m on contraception and I know I have had a test waiting on results. I suppose I just expected more from him? Maybe I’m upset that he didn’t really seem to care? I don’t really know..

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Aprilx · 04/02/2023 13:46

I think you are being quite unreasonable, you had unprotected sex with somebody you were not in a relationship with too. There is no point playing blame games with this, just get yourself tested and deal with as needed.

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Pumblee · 04/02/2023 13:49

i guess I feel like he should respect me enough to know what he’s doing? It’s been a messy break up where we’ve spoken about getting back together just been such a weird place

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BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz · 04/02/2023 13:52

He might not know he had anything. He might not have anything.

JudgeRudy · 04/02/2023 16:38

YANBU to be concerned about your sexual health and take appropriate action
YABU to blame him

You've said "Me personally I wouldn’t have unprotected sex untested with multiple people"...but one is OK? That's all it takes.
You're pretty naive if you assume everyone else follows this rule.

KangarooKenny · 04/02/2023 16:39

You should have insisted on him, and any other casual partner, using something.

Aquamarine1029 · 04/02/2023 16:44

I admit I was upset because to me he’s been out doing whatever, came and slept with me knowing what he’s been doing.

The only one responsible for your sexual health is you.

CharlotteRose90 · 04/02/2023 17:13

He will do whatever he wants. The only person responsible for contraception for you is you. You should be making him wear a condom or not sleeping with him, he doesn’t owe you anything.

Badoukas · 04/02/2023 17:17

It was down to you to protect yourself. I hope things turn out ok x

Holly76354 · 04/02/2023 17:27

I don't know the full circumstances so it's hard to comment because you could of been in a vunerable position when you slept with him, but he's your ex for a reason so if I was you I wouldn't sleep with him again. I hope your results come back clear x

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