To feel he's to tied to his mum..

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Man I've been seeing is 31. He still lives with his parents. Fine. He pays a lot to help them so hasn't been saving much. Again, fine. He's really nice and that doesn't bother me.
But his mum seems to dictate what he does. He couldn't always meet me as he's helping her do chores, he can't go out on Sunday as they have "family night".. and I'm never asked to it. She's realised sadly been diagnosed with early stage cervical cancer and I understand he's worried. But he wouldn't even meet me for a few hours last night "because she has a cold and everyone else is out so I'm looking after her"
AIBU to find this a bit odd? Or am I just an awful person?

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Run for the hills.

He hasn't got time for a relationship. Send him back to mum.

I once had a relationship with a mummy's boy. I actually felt nauseated by the time I broke it off.

RUUUUN.... seriously, there’s nothing worse than a mummy’s boy. I’m getting the ick just reading your post. I get that she is sick. But she will always come before you.

That's really odd! Family night at that age 🤮

He’s not a man, he’s a teenager stuck in a man’s body.

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If you persevere you’ll be on here in 3 years talking about a toxic MIL trying to take over when you have a child and bad talking you to your partner whilst he does fuck all about it.

End it now. That way you have Saturday night free to yourself.

Does he have a single bed in his box room?

Run, seriously, you will always come second.

Is this how you want the rest of your life to be? I'd end it now

If his mother has cervical cancer she may not be around for long.
Could be your turn to get pampered then.

If you can seeing this going long term I'd sit down and have a very frank conversation with him. Even if you have to let him go give him the chance to really think about the fact that he's going to waste his life by living like this. Good luck.