Child’s Fathers Family

[Mama198]

I’m not in contact with my child’s father but communicate sometimes with his sister. His sister will sometimes check in, but she barely asks about my child beyond asking how they’re doing. She’s seen my child twice since they were born (my child is 17 months), and I’m just starting to feel like my child is not a priority and she checks in as more of a checklist task than out of actually concern. I’ve recommended things that would involve her spending more time with my child and she’s seemed enthusiastic about it but then doesn’t make much effort on following through. She says the family want to meet my child, but doesn’t actually put any plans in motion. The breakup between my child’s father and me wasn’t good, and I feel very uncomfortable around his family, so to be in communication with his sister is a big move out of my comfort zone and I’m starting to feel like pulling back from communicating with her also. Am I being unreasonable?

If my child’s other family were like (it sounds like) your child’s other family are, I would be really happy and content to develop a relationship. I would like my child to have a relationship with her other family. But the difference is that her aunt isn’t giving next to half the effort you said your child’s fathers family were giving you! Which makes it very hard for me to trust her, and my gut isn’t sitting right with it. Thank you for your advice and telling me your story, I do appreciate your transparency☺️

The comment about my mental health was directly in response to someone saying I chose to stop her having a relationship with her dad “because it didn’t suit me” when that’s literally not the case at all. If lawyers have even advised me to stop contact with him and tell him
to go to court because of his behaviour, then I don’t really need to be advised by you who knows about a fifth of my story, telling me to simply go to my GP about my mental health, when you don’t know anything about my story in regards to that and this isn’t what the post is about.

I never once said that my mental health was affected by his sisters contact. The question was whether I was unreasonable about pulling back from the communication as I don’t think her intentions are genuine intentions in getting to know my child are genuine.

@Mama198 what I meant to imply was that aged maybe 5 and under they weren't very visible. We lived a huge distance apart. But I kept up phone contact, sent pictures, made inane chitchat.
They built as he got older. And he regularly spends time with them all now.