To want to know does everyone feel like they can’t cope with life at some points ? Is this normal ?

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Just find life very hard at times
almost like I can’t cope with life
I wouldn’t want to do anything silly as I’d feel so bad for my dc dh and family and everyone left behind

but I’m wondering does everyone feel like this sometimes

i don’t feel like this all the time but have at several points in my life

I often find I am repeating the phrase "I can't do this" in my head.

People think I’m very capable and on top of things and I do give that impression but every so often I feel like this and wonder how I’m going to get through the day or week. It’s often triggered by tiredness or a lot happening at once; the run up to Christmas was like it. I find talking to my DH and close friends helps; some practical solutions and sometimes a sick day. I think a lot of people get like this but don’t necessarily talk about it and it’s not something my work colleagues would know about me or the school mums I chat to for example

Yes, I find its worse just before my period too. Usually it's when I've got things going on in multiple areas of life and I just feel too tired to deal with it all.

Yes, normal to feel like this at points.

But, you can cope or if your particular life is too much, you have the power to change things often or ask for help.

Obviously some people have such horrendous life circumstances and tragedies that the above can sound very patronising. In a lot of cases though changing little details or even how you view things can help.

Interesting that negative self talk came up so soon. Really matters how you speak to yourself and what you tell yourself. People def have the power to retrain themselves in this respect.

However, is it normal to on occasion want to pull duvet back over head and give up? Yes

Yes, it’s normal to feel like that at times. Everyone feels under strain or overwhelmed sometimes. If it’s like that day in day out and is stopping you from leading a normal life, that’s when it’s a problem.

Yes negative self talk is an usual for me
thankfully. It non stop when I often have the interval voice of this is too much
I can’t do this etc when things get overwhelming

Absolutely. Had a wobble yesterday (and I'm usually pretty calm and balanced). Missed my mum and was telling myself what a boring low achiever I am. It happens, it passes.

*Interesting that negative self talk came up so soon. Really matters how you speak to yourself and what you tell yourself. People def have the power to retrain themselves in this respect.

However, is it normal to on occasion want to pull duvet back over head and give up? Yes*

This is the crucial thing. One day? that's called the human condition. More than one day? could be things in your life that need addressing and need to change.

Depends what your baseline measure is, I guess.

I had a really shit day the other day. Car crash, my car will be written off and I can't afford a new one. Feeling like rubbish, obviously. Then come home and both my kids are sick everywhere.

By the end of the day I was done, spent, not a light left. Then I went to bed and thought back to the shittiest time of my whole life - a time where I was practically homeless, pregnant, no job, no future in sight. Where the day I had a few days ago would barely have raised an eyebrow in comparison.

I'm still not 100%, but miles better now knowing that I coped then and therefore will definitely find a way again this time.

I repeat “this too shall pass”. I know it’s cliché but it does help me to remember that whatever hell I’m going through on that particular day or week will pass and be a distant memory (or even completely forgotten) one day.

My life is hectic. FT job I dislike. DC who get more demanding with each passing year. Financial stress with a new house that still needs a significant amount of work. Toxic family members who I’ve had to block so they are not a further drain on me.

It will all pass. I’ll find a new job. DC will get older, more independent. The house will either be fine or I’ll sell it. I can continue to keep the family members at arms length. Nothing is permanent

I also find organising small things to look forward to helps. I’m going to the theatre at the end of the month. Booked a very cheap but hopefully fun Summer holiday

Deep breaths OP.

Same. Most days I feel like I'm drowning. I've started trying to action things instead of making endless lists and agree with the PP who said reminding yourself "this too shall pass". It does help.

I think we all have times when we are genuinely close to the limit of what our resources can cope with, whether it is due to health problems, financial problems, relationship issues, housing or job problems, elderly parents, young children, I'll fortune...there have definitely been times when I have skated on thin ice and breathed a sigh of relief when life regained a better balance.

Feeling like this regularly and at times when there is no obvious cause might be edging towards depression, or just a sign that your life needs some changes.

When I was like that I was at the point of no return. I ended up off work sick.

If you feel like this everyday then something isn’t right for you.

Yes it’s completely normal to feel like this OP. You’re not alone!

I repeat “this too shall pass”. I know it’s cliché but it does help me to remember that whatever hell I’m going through on that particular day or week will pass and be a distant memory (or even completely forgotten) one day.

This is one of my strategies too, @Eastie77Returns. It really works. As does staying in the day because "sufficient unto the day are the evils thereof ".

I think most people go through this at times, and I also think some people are more prone to it than others. I have a low threshold for external pressures so I rattle along fine for ages and then start to burn out. That's where I am at the moment.
I decided at the beginning of the year to ditch everything that wasn't vital, and here I am still struggling with the monotony of school run/food shop/what to cook for dinner and then having to keep on top of other stuff that I cannot avoid.
So I have identified that this is more than just me being a pot boiling over and I am seeing my GP about it.

I told my DH I need a holiday - but what I mean is I want a few days at home, alone, to just march to the beat of my own drum!

Love the “Sufficient unto…” quote. I remember hearing it years ago and having to look up what it meant!

I have been feeling overwhelmed over the last couple of days. Nothing major, just small things building up plus issues at work.

This morning after dropping the DC to school and running a series of time consuming errands I stopped off at the supermarket and bought some flowers to cheer myself up. As I was walking into my house my neighbour passed and said “oh look at you, so relaxed with your lovely flowers - you look like a lady of leisure”. I actually felt like crying because it would be wonderful if I could be. It would have been lovely to put the flowers in water, sit looking at them with a coffee and a book and just chill. To look forward to the weekend without the looming dread of Monday

Instead I knew I’d be rushing around to prep for a work call I’m absolutely dreading. Then trying to fit in bits of housework and other life admin.

This too will pass…

This is one of my strategies too, @Eastie77Returns. It really works. As does staying in the day because "sufficient unto the day are the evils thereof ".

im going to need to Google this

Thanks for the pep talk guys

I feel like this frequently. I don’t even feel like have that difficult a life compared to most so I can’t really explain why as I don’t feel as if I should feel this way.

I often think I didn’t ask to be born, life was foisted upon me and I’m expected to be a functioning member of society, and that thought sometimes annoys me! I just think ‘’fuck this shit, I can’t cope.’’

I know I have no right to feel that way really and I don’t plan on acting on it either, but I feel that way so you’re not alone.