Name changed for this, as outing.
Around a year ago a man I had been seeing for about 1.5 years seriously blindsided me.
We saw each other daily, holidays, met the family, talk of future.
He's mid 30's and acted liked he loved me.
We hadn't argued much, tiffs I suppose, and were talking about babies and planning holidays. Two nights before we had sex.
Then, he knocked on my door and said it was over.
I thought he was joking but he wasn't.
He left and after much persuasion gave me an explanation that he "was sick of me".
I tried for more info - I was so confused and sad - but he just looked bored and left. It was honestly like a light had flipped and this person was a different man and no longer interested in me.
I haven't heard anything since. I bumped into him once and he looked at me like we had never met, it was seriously weird.
I do know he got a new gf quickly but she wasn't an overlap.
He was initially very charming but within a few months this faded and looking back I think he was quite critical of me at certain points.
He was also very conflict averse and uncommunicative.
I don't think he ever loved me. It's taken me a while to realise that but I'm ok with it.
I'm getting over it, it has taken ages as I was fully invested, but genuinely... what the hell? I've never dated anyone like this.
I think a lot of my difficulty coming to terms with it is the Jekyll and Hyde aspects of him... I feel like I loved a total stranger.