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Will the police do anything about this?

21 replies

namechangednoclue · 01/02/2023 14:19

Situation is that a disagreement broke out and a mum assaulted her daughter (an adult) right outside of the daughter’s house. There were witnesses present (neighbours) who intervened.

If the daughter reports this to the police, will anything happen? It’s a bit of a silly question but I just wondered if the police wouldn’t be interested as it’s a conflict that’s happened within a family? Or will everything be handled seriously? Thanks

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DrMarciaFieldstone · 01/02/2023 14:21

Yes, assault is assault. It doesn’t matter if it was family or not. This is the excuse domestic abusers thought they could use for years .

swanling · 01/02/2023 14:21

Being related doesn't stop it being assault. It's domestic violence.

RedCarsGoFaster · 01/02/2023 14:21

Yes, this is domestic abuse which is taken extremely seriously.

NashvilleQueen · 01/02/2023 14:22

If there's a complaint and evidence to support (eg the witnesses) police would follow up. Wouldn't necessarily result in a charge. If there are injuries the victim should take photos now and over the next few days.

BridieConvert · 01/02/2023 14:22

Are you seriously suggesting that if it's not assault if it's people who are related to each other?!

namechangednoclue · 01/02/2023 14:22

Thank you for the quick comments, I really appreciate it. And this can be reported via online to the police?

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x2boys · 01/02/2023 14:23

If it was reported they would probably take statements and send them to the CPS,to see if they feel there's enough evidence press charges .

balloontrip · 01/02/2023 14:23

RedCarsGoFaster · 01/02/2023 14:21

Yes, this is domestic abuse which is taken extremely seriously.

I think this is misleading. It is abuse regardless of relationship but it's not always taken very seriously and rarely results in a criminal charge.

Not because of the relationship but because sadly that's how things are.

DrMarciaFieldstone · 01/02/2023 14:25

You can report on 101 or also usually on your local police force website

Everybodywants · 01/02/2023 14:25

Police will take the report seriously. What happens next after it is reported depends on a lot of different factors including the victim's wishes.

ComtesseDeSpair · 01/02/2023 14:26

They’ll take it seriously if the daughter wants it to be taken seriously.

In practice, is it likely the victim will end up making up with their mother and then deciding they don’t want prosecution to go ahead / revoking their statement? If this is likely to be the case, it’s just a waste of everyone’s time.

namechangednoclue · 01/02/2023 14:26

BridieConvert · 01/02/2023 14:22

Are you seriously suggesting that if it's not assault if it's people who are related to each other?!

I did say that ‘a mum assaulted her daughter’ so I know it’s considered assault. I just wasn’t sure whether the police would get involved as it may be viewed as a family issue or whatever. I wasn’t really sure what I thought hence why I’ve posted on here

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madeyemoody · 01/02/2023 14:27

Yeah if the daughter pursues it as assault it would be the same as any other assault charge.

namechangednoclue · 01/02/2023 14:28

Everybodywants · 01/02/2023 14:25

Police will take the report seriously. What happens next after it is reported depends on a lot of different factors including the victim's wishes.

I completely get what you mean, thank you.

Thanks for the comments. You can always count on MN in any type of situation

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OneTC · 01/02/2023 14:30

Being assaulted is no guarantee anyone's getting arrested or charged IME.

Relevant experience: been assaulted frequently at work, witnesses, CCTV, detained the perpetrator, police might come but they're not keen on arresting anyone unless you've had your head smashed in

Ihatethenewlook · 01/02/2023 14:31

BridieConvert · 01/02/2023 14:22

Are you seriously suggesting that if it's not assault if it's people who are related to each other?!

It wasn’t too long ago that that was actually a thing. I’ve personally known victims and perpetrators of domestic violence where the police would turn up, tell them to keep it down and then leave them to it. It’s not surprising that a lot of people don’t realise that domestic violence is actually taken seriously these days.

JacquotteDelahaye · 01/02/2023 14:33

Yes they absolutely will take it seriously and no it doesn't make any difference these days if people are related.
Also check out how to get an injunction.
Domestic abuse can also be by a family member not just partner.
LINK Gov uk injunction

Vaselining · 01/02/2023 15:11

If you're the daughter you already know the answer to this, but if not first find out if she'll be willing to speak to the police and follow through. Otherwise it'll go nowhere.

Ludo19 · 01/02/2023 15:15

Ihatethenewlook · 01/02/2023 14:31

It wasn’t too long ago that that was actually a thing. I’ve personally known victims and perpetrators of domestic violence where the police would turn up, tell them to keep it down and then leave them to it. It’s not surprising that a lot of people don’t realise that domestic violence is actually taken seriously these days.

Yes and most of the time the victim would drop the charges so police didn't really want to take matters further. Rape was also very hard to get a conviction if your attacker was your spouse many years ago. Thankfully those days are gone.

namechangednoclue · 01/02/2023 15:45

Thank you everyone❤️

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JacquotteDelahaye · 01/02/2023 15:55

Look after yourself OP x

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