Confused and upset

[Mustlovetacos]

Hi, think I'm just venting really as not sure what to do about this situation. I left my ex partner about 4 years ago do to domestic violence there have been issues but it settled down. Until about 1 years ago when my eldest ds said that his dad had been physically abusive towards him this was investigated by social services who decided there was no evidence during this time police were called several times but nothing was really done. Fast forward to now and ds 2 ( I have 3 ds's with him) has said that his dad got angry with him and slapped him that hard in the face that his head banged on the wall. I confronted his dad about this who said it was an accident. It was reported to social services who have basically said there is no evidence and dad has said it was an accident even though older brother is backing him up and saying it wasn't. I informed the police who have rang me and said their not taking it any further. I'm also waiting for the police to come as he kicked off at my door last week luckily my parents were there and heard everything so have witnesses. I have withdrawn contact from him and he turned up at the school to apparently talk to his teachers ,I had to hide in the headteachers office as he did this to intimidate, in the 4 years we've been split he hasn't been to the school so this was to prove a point. I feel like nobody is doing anything to stop him social services didn't even speak to him , the police still haven't been out about about him turning up. My parents are there and are completely supportive but I just don't understand how this is just being ignored by those in charge. Again I'm not sure really what I want any advice would be appreciated ,I know that there'll be more kick offs soon as he's not getting his own way I'm just trying to protect myself and the kids. Thanks for reading all that x

What is your housing situation? I'd be looking at a fresh start fucking hundreds of miles away from him. He'll kill one of you.

Your boys are so brave and the authorities are letting them down spectacularly. Get everything in writing. Include times and dates that you reported the assaults and who to. Keep a record and report it to everyone who you can think of.

Good advice above.

Create a paper trail.

Phone calls or in person conversations can and are denied.

Please after you have emailed the above, contact you MP with the above emails that you have sent and ask for help from them.

Again follow up with an email stating how frightened of your husband you are, how you had tonhide in the school, name the
witnesses to this, spell out your fear on behalf of your children.

Confirm your parents have witnessed his abuse.

Make your MP part of this equation.

Name people on emails.

A paper trail is all that works with people who don't want to do their job.

I am so sorry for you.

You sound amazing.

Thank you everyone for your advice and support. Weirdly my aunty mentioned getting the local mp involved so I have his number and will ring his office tomorrow to see what can be done. I feel like I'm banging my head against a brick wall but will continue to email and annoy people as much as possible until they pay attention to me. I have just looked and I'm eligible for legal aid so will get some help with the injunction. I'm just hoping that the police at least do something about just behaviour over the weekend.

Once you have created a paper trail and contact your MP, ask your MP's advice re their view in contacting the papers.

Child assaulted and police /SS refuse to help an abused mother....

By creating a paper trail referencing what has happened and their refusal to help you are creating something tangible for a paper.

I'm not suggesting you go to the papers but the very suggestion that you intend to go to the policing authority, MP, papers mean they know that you are prepared to go the distance.

Keep mentioning him smashing your little boys head against a wall and the police refusing to be involved.

It is shocking, so keep banging loudly your drum that you will not accept his violent assault of your child.

How are you getting on with the injunction @Mustlovetacos? I Don’t mean to be patronising but I wouldn’t care at all about any spelling or grammar or whatever in the emails you send to Social Services, the police and your MP. I’d just leave a paper trail, as others have said.

You and your children need help where this violent man is concerned.

@Seventhcupisfree hi sorry been trying to sort everything out. The police have been today and are basically referring me so someone will be in touch to sort out the non mol ,I actually went the court to talk to them but obviously it will be alot easier with police help. The school rang yesterday saying dad had been in touch to say he wanted to arrange to pick the children up next Friday for his weekend and due to him having parental responsibility they are saying their hands are tied but if the non mol doesn't come through in time then my kids will be off that day and all if us will be elsewhere. I'm basically waiting for replies of other people including my mp but he won't be getting the kids either way, he can take me to court

This is really good to hear - just putting one foot in front of the other is all you can do, and it must be hard enough to do that. I really hope the non mol happens speedily for you all, but very glad you have a contingency plan.

Well done - you're doing amazing things for your children and you should be so proud of yourself. Way to show your boys that this behaviour won't be tolerated and that adults protect children, they don't hurt them.