Hope everyone is well.
I have recently realised my mother has been criticising everything I do. She is not satsisfied and always seems to show me her disappointment. I did not realise until she travelled abroad. She asked me to send her stuff over, I did and the first thing she said was "I asked for 60+ age cream not 40" I said well that was what you asked for and the cream means 40 max not age.
She said the scarves I sent were poor quality and I am like my dad who was known to be very stingy.
Months before, she made me make a chocolate piece for my brother's stag. She paid for it but I spent the time and effort constructing it and she looked at it with such dissatisfaction! Saying the other girls was nicer.
Today I am upset because she has travelled home from abroad and she had a long flight so I said I would cook for her. It's only fair. I cooked and travelled down with my children.
It was so good to have her back but she sat down and ate and I could feel the negative energy. She was criticising the food with her body language! She also said why did I make so much thank you.
She called today and she said "don't take this the wrong way but why do you cook so badly!" I said well I do cook a lot richer than you but my husband loves it and I can only cook for us as a family. If he isn't satisfied then it's pointless really. She then had to process her thoughts, she said I understand. She said I ate it today but it didn't hit the spot. I don't have the energy to cook otherwise I would. She also added her daughter in law cooks the same but her has somewhat flavour!
I said well I understand maybe it was rich and oily but everyone else liked it, she said they were making you happy. I said well aren't you happy? She said if the food isn't nice how can someone be happy. I been so down ever since. I have gotten quite close with my mum but I think she has some psychological problem now. Otherwise she is a super mother.