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Bruised shins and WhatsApp

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Offensiveapprently · 31/01/2023 20:57

My son has a best friend at school they get into occasional spats and tend to shove each other sometimes playing football etc I do deal with these things with him. He comes home with brusies on shins where he has been slide tackled playing football.....all a total non cause for concern all normal play. I get a regular message from best friends mum with a picture of bruises that my son has allegedly caused.
I just ignore them and keep saying nothing and saying if there is a problem teachers will deal with it!
She waits to pounce to discuss the pictures with me at the gate and I breeze on by but she is starting to piss me off. She is putting them on the class WhatsApp and asking if I want a play date so that she can give me advice on parenting. I want to stay on the WhatsApp group but not sure how to deal with her. I won't tell her just to fuck off that is not my style but not sure how to deal with it. I don't want to receive pictures of her child's bruised shin by any means nor do I want to speak about it. Its a total none issue to me and I don't send her pictures of my son's brushed shins.... they play football with about six other boys and girls so it could be any of them.

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Pinkflipflop85 · 31/01/2023 20:59

She sounds unhinged.

Littlemountainhum · 31/01/2023 20:59

Send her a calm but firm message on the WhatsApp group for all to see,

“It’s inappropriate to be raising this here. If you think there’s a problem with how the children play at school please raise it with the school.“

Offensiveapprently · 31/01/2023 21:05

Tonight's message at least had some variety it was a knee. I feel like sending a random picture of toe or my hand......

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Krakenes · 31/01/2023 21:11

Just call her out. Say, ‘Hi Mum, good idea of yours to take this offline, drop me a message privately, I can give you some good tips on how to cope with footballing injuries’.

Silkrose · 31/01/2023 21:34

Some good advice here. I can sense this is pushing your buttons, and of course that’s what she wants. Rest assured that if she posts this on a group WhatsApp and there is a stony, awkward silence from all participants, including yourself, then it is her they’ll be giving the side-eye to and not you.

Hold your tongue, be firm and clear yet polite. You are the bigger person.

YANBU

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