This is not an AIBU more a WWYD but posting for traffic. Its also a long one, so please sit with a tipple of your fancy.
Background
8 friends let's call them:
Jack & Audrey
Ken & Regina
JD & Elliot
Me & DH
Audrey and Regina have been friends for a number of years. Vast age difference (11 years) between them so if their mums hadn't of been friends they wouldn't have been but throughout the years they became very very good friends. Numerous disagreements in the past including in the run up to Jack and Audrey's wedding where Regina text Jack saying that by marrying Audrey he was breaking up the friendship group and that it would change their friendship forever...despite this they remained very good friends.
Anyhoo fast forward to 5 years ago DH and I moved to the area and became friends with Jack and Audrey. Very good friends. Subsequently as part of their social group we became friends with Regina and Ken (boyfriend). Jack and Audrey are also friends with JD and Elliot (Audrey and Elliot work together). Audrey is not a fan of us being such close friends, but who cares. JD had some beef with Ken's brother in school donkeys ago, but has continued to rumble on in to adult years (small village, no one moves kind of thing) Ken and Regina DO NOT like JD and Elliot and hate that Jack and Audrey socialise with them.
Regina is a very no nonsense, tell it how it is kinda girl. She has a history of making snarky, bitchy comments over the years I have known her. It's always been "Well that's Regina for you" and everyone moves on.
Last summer a very drunk Regina ripped in to Audrey accusing her of being an awful friend, why would she be friends with someone like Elliot etc etc. Their friendship changed there and then. No more closeness, but have continued to socialise but nowhere near as frequently as before. With Regina still continuing to throw the odd bomb in occasionally.
December me and Audrey had a joint birthday together at the very end of the evening JD, Elliot, Ken and Regina started a punch up. There is varying opinions as to who started it, but a punch up none the less. Audrey walked in to it with Regina screaming like a banshee. Audrey asked what the hell was going on to which Regina started screaming about loyalties and friendship and saying some really nasty things about Elliot. No one has really spoken to Regina since this happened apart from Audrey who saw her at the weekend. Audrey was polite and tried to engage in conversation as Jack and Ken (Ken was his usual bubbly self) were there. Very frosty. Very awkward. Between Audrey and Regina.
Jack wants absolutely nothing to do with Regina anymore he thinks she's a narcissistic bully who treats Audrey like shit and constantly gaslights her. He had a birthday meal planned for the 6 of us that has since been arranged with Ken and Regina uninvited.
The Problem:
Before all of this Regina and Ken set their wedding date and Audrey and I were invited to Regina's hen do. Audrey can't make it as she already has a weekend away booked with old friends. I said I would be going, but then all the above happened. I have just been asked to pay my deposit but I have no idea whether to go or not. Apart from the hen do whats app i havent heard from Regina since it happened, but have seen and spoken to Ken. Audrey doesn't have a problem if I do. Ultimately this all has absolutely nothing to do with me. However if i do go i feel I would be condoning Reginas behaviour but if I don't go I will be making an already awkward situation more awkward. We all use our local frequently and all our kids are friends.
Then do DH and I even go to the wedding?!
Having read this all back I know it all sounds extremely childish. It is, but I feel I have been put in an impossible position in a situation that is none of my making!!!
WWYD?
Thanks for taking the time to read!!