Not to tell DH

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I’ve bought two hot tickets to see Paul Mescal in Streetcar Named Desire at the Phoenix in April, and I’d rather go with a friend who, er, appreciates the acting (trembles). If I tell DH he’ll want to come (not one to miss out on fun).

YABU - you should tell DH you’ve bought them and let him go with you (he will, no doubt, get in a huff during the course of the evening as he’s not a twentysomething lithe Irishman)
YADNBU - go with a friend who’ll appreciate the fine theatre arts on display

But I think you should tell him, and get him to meet you after!

It’s weird that you think your only two options are to bring you DH or hide the whole thing from him.

Can't you engineer it so that your friend invited you, and you only have 2 tickets, so he'll have to have a take-away and cuddle the dog?
(I've made a few assumptions )

If you don’t tel him, won’t he notice anyway, when you go? Just tell him you’ve arranged to go with a friend 🤷🏻‍♀️. Surely he wouldn’t demand you give your friend’s ticket to him instead?

Odd there’s just those two options? Why not just ask the friend, then tell him you’re going with the friend. I do that all the time, I’m not obliged to doing everything with DH

Just in case anyone is unaware of the tone in my OP, this is a lighthearted post…

Deff go with your friend. This is a friend thing, not a husband thing. Although PPs suggestion to meet up with husband soon after might work very well for you 😉

I mean, go with your friend. But surely you can tell him he's not invited!

Just tell him and say you’re taking your mate!

Im jealous, I’d love to see that show

I'd be more annoyed about not being told than being told you'd rather go with your friend.

bloody hell, go with your friend and tell your DH you're having a girls' night out

I would tell him that my friend had arranged it... If he asked.

I wouldn’t hide it from my DH but I would be telling him that you’re going with your friend.

You could even say your friend bought the tickets if you really don’t want to tell him the truth.

Totally tell him your friend invited you for a girls night and you bought the tickets, simple!

Just tell him you’re going and tell him you’re taking a friend for a girls night. If you really feel you have to lie say that she bought the tickets.

That's what I'm thinking. I would just say "I've booked tickets to this thing I want to go see and I intend to take a friend" end of conversation.

Oh gosh, I saw Martin Shaw in Streetcar about 4000 years ago before he became famous in The Professionals and have had a crush on him ever since 💕💕