Hi Wise Mums
My partner just called to tell me about a conversation he had yesterday with one of my work colleagues (I’m currently on mat leave, not returning to the same place, the colleague is not aware. My partner works in the sister office, so happen to know them all)
She was asking light questions as to when am I coming back and how we will tackle childcare. For the reference, I’ve got 2 DC - my girl turns 2 next months and a 7mo DS, both at home, no nursery involved yet.
The chat was going fine, until the moment she started comparing our situations for some reasons? My partner said to me he got a bit confused when she said to him she’s got it worse than me, because her partner works away most weeks and comes back Fridays stays until Mondays. She’s got one DD 4yo, full time nursery. She just came came back to work part time.
Am i unreasonable to think that people should not be making statements like this? I don’t know her situation in details and but also she doesn’t know mine/ours. You don’t know what kind of struggles people have in their life, whether there is a family support or issues with the mental health whilst tackling motherhood, second jobs - am I unreasonable to think she should have kept it for herself?
I guess I’m a bit upset by that comment though the person is not close to me, just keep thinking about it. The little one is a terrible sleeper and I’m going back to work myself next month. Glad my partner didn’t engage too much in those comments other than being polite, but I wonder whether she would have said it to my face?
thanks for reading 😊