Friendship Feel so lonely

[Donetrying1]

Hello!
l couldn't find a 'Friends' thread so not sure if l've done this correctly!
l am just so lonely, despite making multiple efforts to join in with things.
l moved here 5 years ago, my mobility isn't brilliant (arthritis) and l don't drive which l've discovered is a real setback.
l feel really sad as my 2 best friends in London died in the last couple of years and now l have one friend left who if l'm honest doesn't bother texting back or getting in touch just to say hi, but will happily text me to tell me how great her life is and shows no interest in me or anything l'm up to and last week when l went into hospital didn't even give me a ring, despite me being as supportive as l could be when times have been hard for her.
l'm really feeling fed up as l have tried making new friends and l think l'm a friendly giving sort of person but everyone seems so busy and they have lots of people in their lives so l can understand it.
l'm early 60's 2 grown up children who live miles away and no partner or extended family.
Thanks for letting me rant, just wondered if anyone else feels the same or is it just me!!

Hello, so sorry you are feeling this way. Find out if your GP surgery has a 'social prescribing link worker's. If so, they will give you some free one to one sessions to talk about your interests, goals, what's important to you etc. They will have a bank of information about groups, activities and resources locally geared up to supporting people feeling like you. Not all areas have it yet but I really recommend it if yours does! (Disclaimer: I am a social prescriber and honestly think it's a brilliant innovation!)

You may struggle to get onto the radar of others. That doesn’t mean you’re not lovely. Or that they are having too great a time to include you. It’s more a reflection of the challenging times we’re living in. People are struggling with the stress of making ends meet. Society is very fragmented, I think.

I hope you’re feeling better now and really very sorry to hear you have lost 2 friends - horrible for you. You’re here on MN, which will help fill in some gaps. But make a promise to yourself every day to keep going with your efforts to find a tribe. You’re not on your own and it will happen.

Online courses can extend your network, library groups, regular cafe trips, technology sessions for grownups, even the next door neighbours… there will be people. Keep your eyes peeled and a packet of biscuits at the ready.

Thank you so much for your replies.
I really appreciate it.
sometimes though l feel as if l'm the only one with no real friends and it makes me feel a bit depressed , however l will keep on trying and l will enquire with my GP about the social prescriber, thank you xx

I just came across your post as I was reading various posts about friendship. I am in the same position right now. I'm late 30's and have moved so often throughout my life that it has been very hard to find long lasting friendships. I also lost 2 friends who were only in their 30's within the space of a few years. Like you I have tried lots of ways to meet people but it has been kinda futile, everyone seems so busy and stressed all the time. I think it's a reflection of the times we are living in aswell.

I wish I could offer more words of encouragement but I just wanted to say you are not alone in feeling like this and I relate so much